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[GenXmuse]

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@jaxs mom wrote:

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@Bonanzajellybean wrote:

Hello!  Happy post-thanksgiving to you!

To me a confident person is comfortable receiving feedback without letting it affect their self worth as well as not needing to make decisions by committee all the time.

Also, confidence to me means you can admire other people's gifts and abilities without feeling like it takes away from your own. 

Just being okay in your skin and being able to be happy for others instead of jealous.  

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@GenXmuse well said

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Thank you so much, Jaxsmom!  I always have this blurb ready to share with my kids and sometimes to remind myself!  

[qvcfreak]

I think it's believing in oneself. I'm confident but I don't always speak my mind, sometimes it's best not to say anything. 

[bri20]

Confident people take risks, aren't comfortable playing it safe.  They're willing to take a chance 

[Elvita]

Confident people whose opinion is valued are usually right.

[Yankee2000]

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@bri20 wrote:

Confident people take risks, aren't comfortable playing it safe.  They're willing to take a chance 

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I agree @bri20 say what you mean and mean what you say. Confident people tackle issues head on. 

[bri20]

Confident people admit when they're wrong, admit when they don't know something, and are willing to learn from other people 

[Marp]

@JBKO, clarification please.  Are you asking what in my opinion makes a person confident or are you asking what makes a person have confidence in my opinion?

In either event I strongly disagree that being loud indicates a person that is confident.  Generally I feel just the opposite.

[Texasmouse]

@Marp

Ah yes... a lesson in grammar... a comma (or lack thereof) makes all the difference. LOL

[dooBdoo]

           I think genuine confidence is much more likely to be quiet than loud and more innately humble than pretentious.   There's something powerful and palpable about quiet confidence.   More often than not, being loud might be mistaken for self-assurance but it's often a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem.  (Narcissistic people present as "confident" and boastful, but in fact have significant insecurities and tender, complex emotional wounds.)

           A self-confident person is perceptive and discerning in whether to  "speak their mind" or not.   Think of the person who brags of "telling it like it is," and being "brutally honest," and if you look closely you'll see it's the brutality and putdowns they actually relish.    True confidence isn't threatened by others, so you won't see a confident person brow-beating others in an attempt to force them to agree, they don't right-fight, and you won't see them belittling, insulting, and mocking others to "win" a discussion.  They don't diminish others to elevate themselves.   They're flexible, so they can hear other views and evaluate them, listen and absorb constructive feedback or criticism.    They're able to be self-aware, self-reflective.

           As much as "bully" is an overused word these days, I think the bully is the antonym of a person who possesses and cultivates authentic self-confidence.   

[Moonchilde]

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@Mominohio wrote:

Confident people are indeed good at expressing themselves, but the truly confident often don't feel the need to say anything. They simply know what they know, believe what the believe, and don't need to argue it or espouse it to others. 

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This ^^^

And it doesn't need to be loud; the loudest may be the least confident.