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[Sunnycorle]

Treating each other with respect and acting like human being.

[Sunnycorle]

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@hckynut wrote:

My mom taught me at a very young age:

"Treat every person the same way you wish to be treated"

That was a strong message that I always carry with me.

hckynut(john)

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My Mom did the same with me and it stuck.  That is the best thing to teach anyone. 

[GenXmuse]

Just the fact you had to ask that tells me everything I need to know. 

[bri20]

How is the definition of "kind" subjective?   You are either kind or you're not.  

[beckyb1012]

Some people are offended if referred to as Sweetie or Dear, while others think that they are terms of endearments.  Just written words come across differently to each of us.

[DiAnne]

I also think it has something to do with basic manners which seems to be lacking for some on the forums.  

[dooBdoo]

          There are some very good, insightful responses on this thread.   I believe if people are "kind" they do try to hear what the other person is saying and respond in a way that allows all parties to walk away with their dignity intact.   

          I also believe if we take the time to review our posts and be sure we're "attacking" the topic and not "attacking" the other person/people, this helps in deciding whether our remarks are respectful and civil.

          For the most part, as said before, if we treat others the way we want to be treated, that works.    However, a small percentage of the population is unable to feel empathy, or doesn't understand what "hurt" feels like, or only feels or cares about their own "hurt."

I like the messages in these quotes:

          "Few things reveal your intellect and your generosity of spirit — the parallel powers of your heart and mind — better than how you give feedback."  ~Maria Popova

          "You don't have to disrespect and insult others simply to hold your own ground. If you do, that shows how shaky your own position is.” ~Red Haircrow

          “Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy.”  ~Sir Isaac Newton

[MacDUFF]

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt...most people are kind, I believe.  But some are more blunt or plain-spoken than others.  I agree with the poster who mentioned that one word (or one way to communicate) may be just fine to you, but another will take offense. People have bad days or they think they're being sooo funny, but it falls flat (boy does that describe me sometimes LOL).  I also agree with the poster who mentioned manners...to say something is "hideous" IS an opinion, but maybe another word would be more courteous.  

Again, I'll extend the benefit of the doubt unless it's obvious that there's a persistent problem...then my Italian is apt to get up and all bets are off LOL!

You can't please all of the people all of the time.  

[Drythe]

This seems to be a re-play of a recent thread.

Pretty sure the OP knows what kindness is and is not.

In all kindness I'm not going there again.

[jubilant]

I think kindness is showing love and mercy to another human being whether it be in word, in deed, or in conversation.