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Vamp
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Registered: ‎04-14-2010

What is too soon?

‎01-10-2013 02:38 PM

A friend of mine from high school found out approximately a year and a half ago that she had brain cancer. Sadly, she passed away last May, about 9 months after her diagnoses.

I just learned that her ex-husband got engaged. He is a sweet man and they were married almost 30 years...But I was absolutely floored that he got engaged 7 months after her passing! I want to be happy for him and his new fiancee (whom I don't know); I totally understand that he still has a life to live (He's in his mid 50's), and knowing my friend, she would want him to have a life and get remarried, too. Still, it is all happening so fast. I am still mourning my friend. My emotions are so mixed right now.

Please don't tell me it's none of my business--I know that. He can do whatever he wants to and doesn't need my approval. I am just trying to wrap my head around it so I can genuinely be happy for them without feeling betrayed on behalf of my friend. I know that sounds crazy...but that's how it hit me at the gut level.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom to help me sort through my feelings? Thanks.

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