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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

I lose patience more and more as I age.  I have to fight it daily, and I do.  I am alone . . . a lot.  I  have tried to stop looking at the clock.  Time is my enemy.

 

The days drag on, but the weeks fly by.  And the years . . . five seem like one to me.

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

Patience is defined as the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset. 

 

I learned patience in a huge way when diagnosed with uterine cancer six months following retirement.  I thought I had always been a patient person but the reality of cancer certainly strengthened my resolve.  My initial reaction to the diagnoses was to gracefully accept the fact I had cancer.  I never asked "why me?"  Secondly, the determination and willpower and fortitude to go through subsequent surgery and radiation treatments gave me a new perspective to enjoy life to the full and take each day as it came, one day at a time.  Along with patience I developed a "never give up" attitude that I was going to fight like h*ll to survive. 

 

Six months following the initial diagnoses I was again diagnosed with cancer; this time it was breast cancer.  Again, surgery and radiation treatments offered me the best solution for remission and I recall telling my oncologist to be careful when performing exams.  After all, with 70+ radiation treatments in the span of less than 12 months I told him I may light up like a Christmas tree.  A sense of humor is so important even when dealing with cancer and/or other health issues.  And a "never give up" attitude is essential IMHO.

 

I thank God every day for my remission status which is now over fifteen years.  I am so grateful for each new day with all its ups and downs and the gift of faith and patience it has taught me.

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

I didn't learn patience from my cancer diag.........going through a year and a half of chemo, six weeks of radiation, or getting the use of my left arm back was just what you had to do with a diag like that.........it was more of a, considering the alternative kinda deals........dead or inconvenienced........I went with "mild" inconvenience.


I HAVE learned patience from raising our kids,  four boys and 1 girl...........actually the boys are the ones who taught me patience............... and the police's use of forensic evidence  kept them alive on occasion.............so we both won, I learned patience and they learned the value of science.......win/win..........................raven

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?


@Starpolisher wrote:

Raising my children and having elderly parents.


THIS!!!!!!

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

I think age and learning life lessons has a lot to do with it.

If you're paying attention, that is.

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

I think I've always had patience in the sense of waiting to get something. 

But personal patience, not yelling at drivers, for example, or taking more time with people, I learned from having my own child and setting a better example.  And later even more so by realizing that a pet needs a patient and understanding person.  Your pet does not know that your raised voice is not directed at him or her.

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

Faith, children, marriage, illness, elderly parents, trauma

I guess in one word...LIFE!

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

Honestly?  It was marriage :-)

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

God's Word says in James 1:2,3 "My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience." Knowing that makes me think twice about asking for patience.....LOL!

 

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Re: What has caused or allowed you to develop patience?

Working as a nurse for 50 years and advocacy work with victims of violence as an attorney.