What do you do with the poster

MaggieMack · ‎10-01-2014

sized pictures that are used these days at funerals? @LilacTree started a post today on a related topic, and it reminded me of my dilemma.

My DH passed almost eight years ago. I had two life-size pics of him blown up for the funeral service. I carried them with me when I moved three years ago. Now they are in my garage, and I see that handsome face every time I park my car. It doesn't seem appropriate to have these large pics in my house, especially when I was actively dating. I can't put them in the garbage for the landfill. What do people do with these ginormous pics after the funeral?

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brii · ‎06-20-2010

That's a good question. It would be strange to just throw them away.

We used regular photographs at my mom's wake - and also for my FIL.

Marp · ‎03-09-2010

Could you have them cut into a jigsaw puzzle?

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Campion · ‎10-21-2011

I didn't have such a picture at my honey's funeral but I'd just throw them out (I know, I know.) I have two great photos I love in my office and one at home on a credenza and that's what I like to look at. They are discreet--if I were dating, they wouldn't be obvious. (I'm not dating, however.)

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

I don't know throwing them out seems wrong. I would probably keep them but turn them around so I wouldn't have to see them every time I parked the car.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

If you truly don't want them anymore, maybe you could have someone with no emotional attachment to the photos cut them into smaller pieces and dispose of them in the trash.

brii · ‎06-20-2010

Maybe just roll them up and put them somewhere else until you can get to the point that you can throw them away?

Burnsite · ‎03-10-2010

Maggie, as long as you have kept the smaller scaled pictures that were blown up for the purpose of the funeral, I think you can toss the posters. They are just images, and his real imprint is on your heart and soul.

I really would be spooked by a big picture of a deceased loved one in my garage. You might ask a sibling or friend to take it down, if you can't stand the idea, but I really think you shouldn't feel that you would be doing something wrong.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

look at it this way.....if you dont really want them then think of will happen after you are gone. someone else will be disposing of them. when my father died he had taken so many photos of people, places, and things......and even my mom didnt know who they were of, what they were, or where some of them had been taken. she eventually just got rid of them. when you need to downsize or cannot take care of your own things anymore then someone else will have to make that decision.

i am assuming you already have the normal size photo of him. if you dont, take a photo of the photo for your memories and then just get rid of it.

good luck in making your decisions.

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persiflage · ‎02-16-2014

The jigsaw puzzle is a cute idea.

I think I would have them on the wall of my closet behind some clothes to look at when I wanted to. After getting all the pleasure out of them that I could I would find a way to dispose of them respectfully so someone else didn't have to.