What To Get - Page 6

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

The OP is new and wants to have a good relationship with her coworkers. It's too soon and not worth saving money to alienate people with whom she interacts regularly.

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

Please don't sweat these Xmas gifts. Don't let a few controllers drive you nuts. it's NOT WORTH IT!!!! Believe Me!! quit your job you can easily find another job!!

i had a job where we did xmas gift swap for each staff. . it was an excellent position, great salary. in our dept there were 3 staff and the boss. the boss was a spoiled only child in her 60s and like a child wanted gifts.

had just started working there, in November, before the holidays so i had limited finances from being on (UP for a year) so i got some small Chinese take-out boxes , decorated them and filled them with shiny tinsel and a bunch of Lindt truffles (when Lindt had the shops with all the differnt truffles) i used choco-peppermint candy sticks for "chopsticks" . My boss kind of made a diggy snarky remark about what this gift was "supposed to be" .

every year it was a huge dilemma to buy gifts for the staff and my boss. at the time i no longer even exchanged gifts with family except for my parents.

My boss hated anything made in China. So i had to find something made in USA or Japan because she liked Japan. it was so out of control, sweating gifts for this narcissist woman. i mean i shopped nightly after work ... online shopping was limited then. and if she did not like the gift she would pout...passive-aggressively make it known. she would pit staff against other staff.

Years later i found she expensed all of her departmental gifts and MOST of them were made in China!!!

even now i wonder what i was thinking staying there but the tech bubble had burst so i was stuck there, salary-wise.

so please...don't sweat this...these people are not your friends...

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

OP here, I was all ready to go to BBW after work. I'm driving back from work and hear this noise, the car felt funny, I pulled over. Guess what, I got a flat tire! I had to call AAA and wait for an hour for a tow truck (a miserable day cold and raining). He put the donut on my car and I went to the place that services my car. I needed a new tire (there went $187), after that it was late, I was in no mood and went home. For those of you who have asked I'm not obligated to buy for anyone, I know I'll get gifts and wouldn't feel right not reciprocating. Things like this always happen to me, ( the car business) my dear deceased mother always hated when I said "if it wasn't for bad luck I would have no luck at all".

elated · ‎06-09-2010

@Jordan2 Okay, so you are not obligated to buy gifts for 16 co-workers, so why did you write a post that sounded like you had to do it. I am very confused. If someone buys you a gift and you don't have one, you can say I didn't have an opportunity to purchase you a gift. I would feel bad accepting one from you. This way you give the gifter a way out.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@Jordan2 wrote:
OP here, I was all ready to go to BBW after work. I'm driving back from work and hear this noise, the car felt funny, I pulled over. Guess what, I got a flat tire! I had to call AAA and wait for an hour for a tow truck (a miserable day cold and raining). He put the donut on my car and I went to the place that services my car. I needed a new tire (there went $187), after that it was late, I was in no mood and went home. For those of you who have asked I'm not obligated to buy for anyone, I know I'll get gifts and wouldn't feel right not reciprocating. Things like this always happen to me, ( the car business) my dear deceased mother always hated when I said "if it wasn't for bad luck I would have no luck at all".

@Jordan2 sorry this happened to you. If I were you I would have made a few calls and get a better price on a new tire.

A saying that came to mind is "every disappointment is for a good". I don't like the one you quoted so forget about that lol.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@Sage04 the place I go too I have gone to more years than I can recall. They know me well. They started out as a tire place but branched out over the many years. They are extremely honest, I have sent business their way, the people I sent were very happy with them.

Stray · ‎04-20-2013

16 is a lot to buy but I agree, you don’t want to be the only one who doesn’t give & you will be the recipient of gifts.

The hand sanitizer is a good idea & practical. I’d look for some seasonal bogos as well.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@Sage04 wrote:
@Cakers3 wrote:
So let me get this straight-16 people are going to buy for 16 other people and everyone ends up with either a candle, candy, or some kind of ornament. Which all y'all could have just bought for yourselves. Or worse left-over cookies from someone's cookie swap.

(I am assuming from the post there are actually 17 people counting the OP.)

I think it would be nicer to pool all the money spent on yet more carppy gifts and buy some presents for local toy drives.

I think the OP is mistaken on how this works.

@Cakers3 read Message #31 that the OP Posted. She doesn't have to but she wants to. I wouldn't do something just because I don't want anyone to talk about me.

@Sage04 I saw that and one worker whined she didn't get a cookie then received one the next day.

I still think the OP is mistaken about how this works and I agree-I would not participate and "bah humbug" to those who didn't like it.

More carppy candles and trinkets when a donation made in their names to a local kids shelter or other local food bank is the Christmas spirit.

A Secret Santa is ok-one and done.

16 gifts where everyone ends up with the same things-guarantee it.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh