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[Pearlee]

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@feline groovy wrote:

Rude/inconsiderate.

You can always call first, even if it's from a pay phone.

This is how I was raised, and I always adhere to this thinking.

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Good luck finding a pay phone any more.  They are almost obsolete since it's assumed everyone has a cell phone (which of course everyone doesn't).

[jaxs mom]

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@ChynnaBlue wrote:

None of my friends have my address and it's not listed in the phone book. That's how strongly I feel about the pop-in.

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If someone doesn't know where I live and has never been to my house, they're an acquaintance not a friend. 

[jaxs mom]

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@feline groovy wrote:

Rude/inconsiderate.

You can always call first, even if it's from a pay phone.

This is how I was raised, and I always adhere to this thinking.

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I honestly can't remember the last time I saw a pay phone. 

[jaxs mom]

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@Lucky Charm wrote:

I really don't see a problem with it and don't understand what the problem is.

Are the people that knock on your doors obnoxious?  Are they dirty?  Are they loud or drunk or abusive?

The people that come over to my house are my friends and family.  What would stop me from a light conversation?  I don't have to make a chocolate mousse for them.  No reason we can't sit on a sunny porch or deck and talk.  I don't care if my hair is up in a clip and I'm still in my jammies.  No one I know is going to make me feel bad about that.  It's the norm.

What do y'all live next to Mrs. Crabtree?

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I don't get it either. 

[Toppers]

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@jaxs mom wrote:

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@Lucky Charm wrote:

I really don't see a problem with it and don't understand what the problem is.

Are the people that knock on your doors obnoxious?  Are they dirty?  Are they loud or drunk or abusive?

The people that come over to my house are my friends and family.  What would stop me from a light conversation?  I don't have to make a chocolate mousse for them.  No reason we can't sit on a sunny porch or deck and talk.  I don't care if my hair is up in a clip and I'm still in my jammies.  No one I know is going to make me feel bad about that.  It's the norm.

What do y'all live next to Mrs. Crabtree?

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I don't get it either. 

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The ones that I've had experience with who tend to want to do this, have narcissistic tendencies. 

[sunshine&rainbows]

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@Jordan2 wrote:

I really don't like when someone comes to visit, doesn't call, and says I was in the neighborhood. I like a little notice to tidy up or maybe I'm not feeling up to company.What do all of you think, is it rude or okay?

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@Jordan2

Its okay for me.

Especially if it is a good friend I haven't seen for awhile.

Good times to catch up, and if they are close, to be silly and laugh, if she knows me, she knows me! No judgement.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

  My home is my private space and not to be violated by uninvited people with no manners or consideration.

  If you weren't asked to come over, you won't get inside.

  I'm not obligated to entertain someone who just shows up.

[OnlyShopsOnline]

Ok, my response is going to be a little different than most, even though I totally understand their replies.  It's just that I've reached a point in my life where I've left the negativity and drama....and those responsible for it.....far, far behind.

So I have no problem with a drop in from the family and friends that now remain an important part of my life. I don't stand on formality.  I don't care if any of them show up while I'm in my pj's.  Unless I'm not feeling well, I am very happy to have an unexpected visit from someone I care about.

[Deb1010yetagain]

I HATE HATE HATE the pop in.   The other day someone tried that with me at 7:30AM because she knows I'm up early.  I muted the TV and kept quiet, but guess what??? the door was unlocked (for some stupid reason and that's my fault).   She actually tried the door and there she was in my living room at 7:30AM.  YIKES!  I told her I was going back to bed and thankfully she left.   Now I make sure my door is always locked!!!

[jubilant]

My kids and my older grandson's (18 and 22) know that I have an open door policy for them.  They can always get in if they want to......even when we are not home.  I do answer the door for my closest neighbors most of the time.  We are a pretty tight knit neighborhood of 50 houses.  Sometimes little kids come to the door to sell something for school.  I buy from one and tell the rest I have already bought.  If too many show up, I quit answering the door!  It's hard to say no to a cute little chubby face making his first sales pitch.  Ha!  

Occasionally a neighbor will ring the doorbell and bring us food from their gardens, etc. or maybe want to update us on their spouse or loved one in the hospital.  Here in Indiana rural farm country.....it's considered pretty normal.  I don't, however, answer the door to strangers.  Friends, for the most part would call first.