Weddings in 2023 - Page 4

gidgetgh · ‎03-09-2010

I just think it's weird that so many "rules" apply to weddings these days.

I posted earlier, but additionally, I was just so thrilled, deeply pleased, that my moms family from NE PA and Buffalo came to Atlanta for our wedding and that they truly wanted to be here with us. There were 54 of us total.

I didn't care if they wore a space suit and now, almost 33 years later, I can't tell you what anyone wore other than me. Oh, And I remember what my mom and sister wore. That's it.

We had a few people taking pictures with their cameras and I have one of them framed and out, but how many times do you look at those pictures through the years, let alone be mad that Aunt Susie didn't stick to "required" dress code.

I just think some of it is so pretentious.

Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?

bonnielu · ‎03-11-2010

Interesting topic and so very much what I need to discover right now. Going to wedding. I was casually told I would be in the wedding party and shown choices of what to wear online. A certain color and what amounted to a price point that was extremely high. I am the grandmother of the groom. In any case I really got rattled. One tux for hubby-granddad. No problem he can still wearl his wedding suit after 58 years. I just had to buy a white shirt and a bow tie which I haven't decided the appropriate color yet. As for me on Amazon $70 bucks for a long flowing dress in pinkish. Getting it altered for length. Now for shoes and a purse. Trying to match pink is so much fun.

I want to do the right thing, wear the right outfit but heck I am a grandmother, while honored I am very uptight because this has been one looooong process and I am just a bit feeling uneasy about looking the right way.

Pink shoes? White shoes? Matching clutch bag? Hat? No real guidance except "be in the wedding party."

JJsMom · ‎03-10-2010

@Snowpuppy wrote:
It's the bride's day, let her have it how she wants it.

It's only a dress for a few hours and you can donate it to Goodwill when it's over.

I don't believe a bride should do whatever she pleases just because it's her wedding day. You do have to take into consideration your guests and attendants. Unless you are eloping, you need to be reasonable in your requests. I'm shocked by the amount of money and commitment some brides are demanding of their bridesmaids. I could never have done that.

If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. ~ Desmond Tutu

We rescue cats · ‎01-25-2023

Wow. I would probably get on my contrary horse and not attend, or I would attend and wear whatever the heck color I wanted to wear. My boss had a very expensive wedding and though it was black tie there were no other directives for clothing for anyone. The bride and groom each had one attendant and the pre-wedding parties were low key as well. I've never heard of such a directive for a wedding!

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CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

"It's the bride's day". Isn't it the couple's day? She wouldn't be a bride without the groom.

teganslaw · ‎03-11-2010

@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
"It's the bride's day". Isn't it the couple's day? She wouldn't be a bride without the groom.

Good point. I never understood why the day has to be all about the bride. Isn't the groom important, as well? If he weren't part of it there would be no wedding.

If a bride is so controlling for the wedding day, I can only imagine how the marriage will be. At such times the groom should run far away.

"The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog."

Mark Twain

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

@Iwantcoffee wrote:
If you have a guest in your home it is your choice to request visitors do not wear shoes, do not smoke, wear a mask. Your home your rules, her wedding, her party, her choice to have a dress code.

Totally disagree. Not the same thing at all. It's rude, entitled and tacky.

~What a terrible era in which idiots govern the blind.~ William Shakespeare

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

@We rescue cats wrote:
Wow. I would probably get on my contrary horse and not attend, or I would attend and wear whatever the heck color I wanted to wear. My boss had a very expensive wedding and though it was black tie there were no other directives for clothing for anyone. The bride and groom each had one attendant and the pre-wedding parties were low key as well. I've never heard of such a directive for a wedding!

Exactly the way it should be.

On another note, I think bridal parties are getting smaller too with many opting for a maid/matron of honor and a best man. The parade of bridesmaids and small children with ridiculous duties (who can't even get themselves down the aisle) will hopefully be a thing of the past.

~What a terrible era in which idiots govern the blind.~ William Shakespeare

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

She sounds like a spoiled brat bridezilla.

shoptilyadropagain · ‎03-19-2014

If the bride wants to dictate what color I, an aunt, is required to wear, the bridezilla better fork over her credit card to pay for something I don't own in her requested color.

Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, but Wisdom is knowing not to put it in a fruit salad.
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