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[ECBG]

Very sorry for your headache!   Apparently, she wanted everyone to be coordinated for the photos or she is a control freak. 

Go and have a good time!

[Sooner]

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@Love my grandkids wrote:

@Trailrun23 Being that I am sometimes a rebel at heart, and that the 35 year old bridezilla would not be telling me what color to wear, I'd show up in a color that looks good on me  and see what happens.

I doubt I'd be thrown out of the wedding.

I often read and see stories about over the top weddings like this and wonder how long the marriages last.

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@Love my grandkids Good grief I sure wouldn't do what you would do.  Mostly because me being me, I'd stay home and avoid the whole extravaganza.  Happily at home. 

I think when people are the audience, you don't have any right to tell them what to wear.  But I guess some people find it exciting and a statement to all.

[qbetzforreal]

A while back there was a similar thread like this one.

Seeing that more women are waiting later in life to marry, many have careers and can afford to have the wedding of their dreams.

And I say good for them.  When my sister was getting married, her bridal shower consisted of a night on the town in NYC.  Everyone had a blast.

Each bride is different.

[bikerbabe]

I was involved with two work-friend weddings in the past 4 years. One was 20-something and the other was 30-something and what you’ve described did not apply to either wedding.

These are her rules based on a social media-driven expectation on her part. So no, it’s not the “rules” because there are no rules.

[haddon9]

My daughter got married last May.  Because we still had some Covid concerns she opted for an outdoor wedding.  It was at a beautiful wildflower preserve in New Hope, PA. 

I worried so much weeks and days before the wedding about the weather even though we had a big tent and pavilion.  Early in the month (Mother's Day weekend) the weather was horrid!  There was heavy wind, torrential rain and the temps never reach 50!  I drove past the venue that day to see how things were since there was a wedding going on then...UGH!  I felt so badly for that couple.

We were soooo lucky to have picture perfect weather!...no rain, wind or humidity and the temps ranged between 77 to 82.

I'm setting the picture for her wedding.  There were some misses but overall things worked out very well.  It was wonderful to see so many friends and family having a good time but most importantly and the happy couple had a blissful wedding!  

Who cares about silly rules?  My daughter at the age of 36 decided to do her own thing and not have any attendants.  She did have a wedding planner who did a lot of the footwork. She got together with friends to have a girls' weekend rather than a "bachelorette" party.  She also opted to not have a shower but got just about everything that she had listed on her registry.

Many brides today want to have a wedding in the heart of the city in a fancy ballroom.  My daughter wanted a Boho wildflower theme.   It was still a ton of work and really wasn't simple since everything had to be brought in....yet it was really unique to her and her husband.

Everyone is different with their wedding choices but the most important thing is they are very happy together and are now parents of a newborn baby boy!

ETA:  I think telling your what color to wear is ridiculous!  You are not a bridesmaid.  I'm assuming that she wants group family photos and everyone should coordinate.  I would choose a color that works for you.  How about a navy?  

[qvcfreak]

I guess she has a picture of what she wants. I hope she has a beautiful wedding. And yikes, 8 bridesmaids, that's a lot. 

[on the bay]

My daughter told me for her wedding she wanted me to wear what I would feel beautiful in.💗

[Love my grandkids]

@Sooner As I said that's just the wannabe rebel. I likely would stay home as well and avoid the whole circus!

[Puppy Lips]

Agree with the Bridezilla label. There is no way I would wear a color that does not look good on me. Light blue would be one of those colors. Is she telling all the guests what color to wear? Wear what you want as the Aunt and have a good time.

[jubilant]

I'm a believer in having what your family (or you) can afford without going into debt.