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[Trailrun23]

I have not been part of planning a wedding since 8 years ago when my youngest married. Have now been hearing from my niece who is getting married in September....things certainly seem to have changed!

I learned that batchelorette parties are now trips, not parties. They are going to NYC to shop and stay at a fancy hotel.  8 bridesmaids is the minimum or it is tacky.  She is having "only" 8. Professional makeup and hair is a requirement for all bridesmaids, not just the bride, and the bridesmaid dresses must be very neutral in color, like beige or grey so it doesn't compete with the wedding gown, which must be white or blush. Oh, and I am supposed to wear pale blue, my absolute worst color...because that's what aunts wear at weddings. She is 35. I don't know if I am worried or just amazed. Who wrote the rules that everyone is supposed to follow? I haven't talked to my sister yet....that should be a hoot. She is the ultimate control freak, so this isn't going to go well.

Sigh.....

[NEvans2]

@Trailrun23  Actually, that's not the way weddings are in 2023. Sounds like you have a real Bridezilla on your hands. There is no specific color palette for aunts or anyone else. Good Luck, it sounds like you're going to need it! LOL 

[gidgetgh]

I am opposite of what many people think weddings should be.

I absolutely am a spender....on many things that other people probably wouldn't spend money on, but fancy restaurants, $200 bottles of wine and weddings are just a few of the things that I just won't drop that much money on.

I was 35 when I got married.  $1,400 total and that included the cost of my dress.  My sister was my matron of honor. No bridesmaids.  And, at the end of the day, I was just as married as someone who might have opted for all the hoopla and expense. My wedding dress, which was a short dress, came from Talbots.

I find all that over the top stuff just so ridiculous.  But I realize that others don't think like me.

[Snowpuppy]

It's the bride's day, let her have it how she wants it.

It's only a dress for a few hours and you can donate it to Goodwill when it's over.

[sugar plum]

I feel badly for whoever is footing the bill. 🙄

[pupwhipped]

At the age of 35 I would hope this "lovely" sounding bride is footing the bill. 

[qbetzforreal]

Those aren't everyone's rules just the neice's rules.

[Goldengate8361]

Rules are made to be broken. I would completely 100% do exactly what I wanted to do and would pay NO attention to others so called rules for you. Besides, the bride and groom will divorce in a couple of years anyway.

[Janey2]

Telling an aunt what color to wear? Never heard of that rule. I would be curious to know why. Although I once got invited to a wedding and asked to wear white. The couple wanted a completely white wedding. I did not attend because it was out of state and could not take that amount of time off so I do not know if they pulled it off. I helped make three weddings and was told to wear whatever I wanted.

[Love my grandkids]

@Trailrun23 Being that I am sometimes a rebel at heart, and that the 35 year old bridezilla would not be telling me what color to wear, I'd show up in a color that looks good on me  and see what happens.

I doubt I'd be thrown out of the wedding.

I often read and see stories about over the top weddings like this and wonder how long the marriages last.