Wedding gift question - Page 2

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

@Witchy Woman wrote:
@panda1234

I have the same situation with a late September wedding.

Couple registered a few items, but mostly wanted $$ for the honeymoon saying they had a household set up, etc.

It's on my husband's side and he is going solo to the wedding, which is out of town.

I'm plannng to deposit the money sometime soon, which is a few weeks before the event.

This isn't the first time I've seen something like this. The last wedding requested specific amounts for their trip to Disneyland.

While certainly not traditional by my standards, I'd rather give them what they want.

@Witchy Woman They are going to Disney also. For the 7 days it is going to be $6,000 for the rwo of them.

SunValley · ‎04-19-2010

All the weddings I have been invited to within the past few years have had a “honey fund” component on the registry. Few couples today are transitioning from their parent’s home and starting from scratch like I did. A gift of towels or contributing to a memorable experience are both fine with me.

Peaches McPhee · ‎04-19-2010

If this was the method I was going to use, I'd do it as soon as I got the invitation. Or very soon thereafter.

-- pro-aging --

Rochester, New York

Witchy Woman · ‎03-15-2010

@panda1234

Wowza, that seems like a lot for Disney, but I'm not a traveler, so what do I know.

When we donated to the previous honeymoon to Disney, they requested specific amounts for specific activities. We donated the airfare, which I think was $300 or so. The young man was my husband's nephew.

The current instance doesn't mention what the honeymoon plans are, so I will just donate my $$ to their account.

Times change, so the way we gift for weddings has changed. To repeat myself, I'd rather give something they want.

Travone · ‎10-14-2016

If they want money for the honeymoon, I would assume they have everything they need and I would send a donation in their name to a local charity.

I want to go on vacation too, but I don't ask others to pay for it. Just because you are getting married doesn't mean you have to go on a vacation that you can't afford.

mimomof4 · ‎03-08-2018

I don't have a problem with asking for money for the Honeymoon. If the couple has everything else, this is really no different than giving a couple money as your gift.

As far as when to give, I say whenever you are comfortable. If you can give the money now do so. At least you have that out of the way.

FrostyBabe1 · ‎05-09-2016

I'd say contribute whatever amount you're comfortable with, whenever you want to make the contribution.

I see nothing wrong with the request, nor do I think it's a "money grab" or "asking for people to pay for a vacation they can't afford". It's not 1950 anymore and many, many couples already have all of the household goods that they could possibly need. Selecting from various items or activities for a honeymoon trip is really no different than picking a gift from a registry. Giving cash to a general fund is no different than giving them cash for whatever they want to spend it on.

~The more someone needs to brag about how wonderful, special, successful, wealthy or important they are, the greater the likelihood that it isn't true. ~

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

I would gift them using the same timeline as if I purchased

a physical wrapped gift. Why would this be different?

Monies would still be needed after the wedding so if you

wish to ‘pick up the gift’ on the day of the wedding

(I.e go online to donate to the fund), it would be appreciated

just as much. Hope you have fun at the wedding!

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

Most people I know give a check for the wedding and ony use a gift registery for a shower. No one I know actually brings a wrapped gift to a weddding. Giving a check is no different than contributing towards their honeymoon.

For something like this I would give when I could. Now or a month or so out from the wedding.

Some people think this is tacky...it's not much tackier than a gift registry. After all a registry is asking for a gift too. To give a contribution to a charity instead of a gift to me is tacky and not very nice.

queendiva · ‎03-12-2010

The first I heard of this was for a family member's wedding.Asked to fund their honeymoon to Greece! These two young NYC professionals lived in an apt. and made high dollar salaries. They also had a traditional registry at Pottery Barn. They had many takers to contribute to their honeymoon; I was not one of them.

Sorry- OG here. I would be appalled if my only remaining single child, who I love dearly and expect to announce their engagement in a few months, and intended spouse registered for such a thing. Considering how many couples live together long before marriage, should they not have set up their own Honey Fund Me account?