Wedding Money Gift (Son's Marriage) - Page 3

Another new name Sue · ‎03-11-2010

You've gotten some good replies here. It sounds like you think you "owe" them some amount of money because they are getting married, when you have already given them $2,000. No one here can answer your question because we have no idea of your personal financial situation.

Hope you enjoy the wedding, and congratulations on gaining a DIL.

tedEbear · ‎03-22-2015

Destination weddings became a big deal in bridal magazines showing RICH and WEALTHY couples getting married. Weddings cost so much money. The venue is so important, then sit down or buffet,food stations,linens, printed napkins with name of couple, thank you gift for all the guests and the Bar,don't forget the bar,oh wait we can do the cake and flowers,also dance floor,DJ,etc,etc,etc. Whatever happened to having a nice wedding with cake and punch? I used to be a wedding consultant (Salesman) it was fun but, the price was undeniably a big waste.

Mary, your gift was very thoughtful and loving, we gave son and new wife a weekend in Laughlin as a honeymoon. Do what your Heart and Finances dictates. Best Wishes to the Bride and Groom.

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

I live in NJ. What's the difference if I'm invited to a wedding taking place in the Bahamas or one that's taking place in California? I'd still need a plane ticket, hotel and car rental. With either I can choose to decline the invitation.

Today few young couples end up living in the communities where they were raised. They have relatives and friends from all over. Many weddings are destination weddings for a lot of the guests.

Back in 1971 we were married in the campus church of my husband's college. I hope our family and friends weren't this upset because we had a destination wedding.

Chrystaltree2 · ‎12-08-2014

That type of thing is personal differs from family to family. You give them what you can afford to give them.

OnlyShopsOnline · ‎03-09-2010

We gave our daughter and SIL $10,000. But that was to either pay for the wedding or use towards the downpayment for their house. They chose to use it on the house.

But, we only have the one child, and we got off pretty easy with college expenses because she was awarded scholarship money.

There is certainly nothing wrong with a $2000 wedding gift! It's very generous.

The best part about giving cash is that you are free of stress. They decide how they want to use it, and then need to allocate money for the wedding themselves. No stress for the parents, as far as increasing guest lists, and other expenses. Write one check and you're done!

Congratulations!

"I've been here since October 2006. Wow!"

Bellamay · ‎06-29-2013

To the person who gave $10k and the couple used it for a house. Shout out to them. Best thing they could have done. Big weddings are a big waste in my opinion. Big wedding lasts for a day. Your house you will have for a long time, possible trade in for a larger home if you ever want to start a family or get a few pets.
If you give $100 dollars, that is great as well. Never go in debt for someone else. Give what you can afford.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

Since you already gave them money I think you would want to give them a very nice keepsake as a wedding present.

patbz · ‎03-10-2010

I got married at 40 and we covered all of our wedding and honeymoon. My parents gave us enough money to cover an IRA. Now that we are retired we are still grateful for that start on our future.

italia8140 · ‎04-27-2015

@circles wrote:
I have always thought ""Destination"" weddings were selfish of the bride and groom...
Why should their friends and family be forced to use their vacation time to travel to your wedding when you could easily gotten married where most family lives....then go to your destination.....for your honeymoon...
By the way....I think $2000.00 is a great deal of money and you need not add to that unless you are fortunate enough to give more....and want to....

Not selfish at all. It's the bride and groom's day, so wherever they decide to get married is THEIR CHOICE.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

@circles wrote:
I have always thought ""Destination"" weddings were selfish of the bride and groom...
Why should their friends and family be forced to use their vacation time to travel to your wedding when you could easily gotten married where most family lives....then go to your destination.....for your honeymoon...
By the way....I think $2000.00 is a great deal of money and you need not add to that unless you are fortunate enough to give more....and want to....

No one is forced to attend. Anyone can easily say no. I've not attended either of the destination weddings I've been invited to but I know people who use it as their vacation if it's a place they've wanted to go.