Re: Wedding Invite

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/6/2015 GoodStuff said:
On 3/5/2015 missy1 said:
On 3/5/2015 Love my grandkids said:
There is NO reason why each invitee is asked to bring a Guest. A person whose food and refreshments must be paid for. Silly expectation IMO.

Invite a guest, have them pre-pay their meal in their rsvp.

Prepay their own meal?! Talk about faux pas......... ${#emotions_dlg.crying}$

Wedding hosts invite the people they wish to accommodate and can accommodate.....and there are usually limits on space and resources. Often there are difficult choices to be made among family relations and close friends........let along trying to make room for miscellaneous guests of invitees! If you are invited to a wedding, you RSVP for yourself. You do NOT expect to bring additional people along!

I was being silly.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Especially now-a-days, sometimes prices per plate are very expensive. If one invites one 'and guest', then they sometimes have to invite all 'and guests'. So as to not offend the other guests (often times family, cousins, etc.) who wish to bring/find dates.

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BellaPaprika · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/7/2015 guatmum said: As someone who is single, I never attend a wedding for which I'm not allowed to bring a guest. Too many times singles are treated like slightly older children and are often relegated to a table of other strangers rather than giving them a chance to at least sit with family. Most of the time they are treated as the odd one out with the excuse that the bride put them at an odd table to "meet" people. But it is just that, an excuse. Whenever this has happened to me, I just politely declined the invitation and sent a modest gift. Btw, the idea that guests should feel honored to be invited is backwards imo. Couples should feel honored that a guest would give up their day to watch two people get married. If a couple is not close enough to a possible guest to know his/her address, to me it seems like they're trying to fill a seat and there's nothing for that distant relation or acquaintance to feel honored about. Don't misunderstand. I love attending weddings, birthday parties, and other celebrations of close friends, but that's because they mean something to me and I mean something to them. Otherwise it's a wasted day for a guest.

Guatmum, you have it exactly right. That's why the invitations often read "so and so requests the honor of your presence". Another poster just said that guests should not make the wedding all about them. The invitation is supposed to be "all about the guest". Otherwise the couple can get married with just one or two witnesses. That's all that the law requires. It's the self centered generation that has skewed this whole thing into it being lump it or like it as regards the guests. When you invite someone to your wedding and reception, you are hosting a party which you hope they will attend. Yes, it is all about the guests!

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Also, many times in many areas, there is a maximum capacity seating rule (fire safety) for each facility room. If a couple wishes to invite close family and friends and has found the 'perfect' romantic, whatever venue/setting/room, then guests bringing their guests would violate the maximum capacity and the venue would have to be changed to a larger, maybe not so perfect (to them) room. Personally, now-a-days, I would prefer a smaller wedding/reception venue. Romantic, comfortable, unique. More private and cozy, sharing with very close family/friends, including singles.

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