Re: Wedding Invite

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

On 3/5/2015 colliegirls said:
An easy way to save money IMO is to eliminate the Save-a-Dates! People will either come or not and your best friends and relatives already know about the date way ahead of time without those save-a-dates.

Totally agree!!! That save the date stuff is nonsense!!!

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sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/5/2015 adelle38 said:
On 3/5/2015 colliegirls said:
An easy way to save money IMO is to eliminate the Save-a-Dates! People will either come or not and your best friends and relatives already know about the date way ahead of time without those save-a-dates.

I wonder if the save the date thing is so guests won't plan another event on that date.

that is exactly the reason for them, especially since they are sent MONTHS in advance. the one that we recently received is 6 months before. it DOES help for me to put it on my calendar and remember not to schedule anything else.

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colliegirls · ‎05-13-2012

On 3/5/2015 adelle38 said:
On 3/5/2015 colliegirls said:
An easy way to save money IMO is to eliminate the Save-a-Dates! People will either come or not and your best friends and relatives already know about the date way ahead of time without those save-a-dates.

I wonder if the save the date thing is so guests won't plan another event on that date.

It is for that reason however, all the most beloved and known guests already know the date in advance and will plan on coming, no matter what. The few who have something on that date that is important won't attend regardless of a save-a-date. That is what we have found, the ones who really want to come to the wedding will come.

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/5/2015 faeriemoon said:
On 3/5/2015 colliegirls said:
An easy way to save money IMO is to eliminate the Save-a-Dates! People will either come or not and your best friends and relatives already know about the date way ahead of time without those save-a-dates.

Totally agree!!! That save the date stuff is nonsense!!!

Last summer we received a save a date card for the wedding of the son of someone who works with my husband.

In October I received an invitation to the bridal shower. When I RSVPed, I told the person on the other end, I had no idea who this bride-to-be was. She told me she was the fiancee of ______. I said I would not be attending but could I send a present to her address? She said she did not want to be responsible for the gift. I ended up having my husband take a gift to work to give to the MOG.

The wedding was in February. We did not receive an invitation.

shoptilyadropagain · ‎03-19-2014

How does your daughter feel about the situation?

I know in the scheme of things, that it is pretty insignificant but I'm ....ummm....well over 40 (cough) years old and my mom still receives invitations to bridal or baby showers addressed to Mrs. ______ ________ and (my name). It is a pet peeve of mine and does irritate me that I'm not worth a phone call to find out my address and/or another stamp if they're expecting a gift from me. I pass on all those types of invitations.

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FUTURE · ‎04-11-2010

I didn't read all of the replies. Maybe she ran out of invites and figured you would be understanding.....so be understanding.

(I'm not saying you aren't, I'm just kidding around). But since you're family, blow it off, go, and have a good time.

sunala · ‎03-09-2010

Yes I'd agree you're acting overly sensitive.

Be grateful you all got an invitation in the mail and not an email invitation.

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september · ‎03-09-2010

I think anyone over the age of 21, should receive his/her own invitation, even if he/she is living with parents.

And when finances allow...that person should be able to bring a guest, since most people in this age group have a significant other.

goodstuff · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/5/2015 faeriemoon said:
On 3/5/2015 colliegirls said:
An easy way to save money IMO is to eliminate the Save-a-Dates! People will either come or not and your best friends and relatives already know about the date way ahead of time without those save-a-dates.

Totally agree!!! That save the date stuff is nonsense!!!

I appreciate the "save-a-date" mailings. I have a large family with lots and lots of weddings, and it really helps to know the dates of upcoming nuptials well ahead of time. Actual invitations don't go out till just a few weeks before the wedding -- often too late to reschedule other events already on our calendar!

goodstuff · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/5/2015 missy1 said:
On 3/5/2015 Love my grandkids said:
There is NO reason why each invitee is asked to bring a Guest. A person whose food and refreshments must be paid for. Silly expectation IMO.

Invite a guest, have them pre-pay their meal in their rsvp.

Prepay their own meal?! Talk about faux pas......... ${#emotions_dlg.crying}$

Wedding hosts invite the people they wish to accommodate and can accommodate.....and there are usually limits on space and resources. Often there are difficult choices to be made among family relations and close friends........let along trying to make room for miscellaneous guests of invitees! If you are invited to a wedding, you RSVP for yourself. You do NOT expect to bring additional people along!