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[JeanLouiseFinch]

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@I am still oxoxwrote:

Talking about weddings, what is the general rule of thumb for sending thanks you notes.

We went to a wedding Memorial Day last year and no thank you as yet. Our check was deposited with in 48 hours of the wedding.

The bride is the daughter of and old and dear friend, but I think the lack of a thank you is manner less

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@I am still oxox- at this point, don't expect one.  What a shame, the couple couldn't take the time out for that.  Join the club, though.  We did not attend a niece's wedding (actually we weren't invited) but we sent a gift.  We never got a written thank you, email, or phone call from her/them either.  

Etiquette says wedding thank you notes should be sent within three months, but I personally think that's too long.  IMO, it should be done promplty within 4 weeks or so, giving the couple time to enjoy their honeymoon but then get to it soon after their return - JMO.  Our son and future DIL's bridal shower was a couple of weeks ago.  They got their thank you notes out within very quickly, within the following week.

[Group 5 minus 1]

As i said in suggestions it would be nice to have a "wedding" forum.

[Daisy Sunflower]

Although I'd be glad that I was invited to the reception only, I don't think it's right for guests to be separated into two groups. Weird.

At my age, I don't get excited about weddings, receptions, baby showers, etc. anymore.

[Suziepeach]

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@Daisy Sunflowerwrote:

Although I'd be glad that I was invited to the reception only, I don't think it's right for guests to be separated into two groups. Weird.

At my age, I don't get excited about weddings, receptions, baby showers, etc. anymore.

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@Daisy Sunflower. I was thinking the same thing and trying to imagine how we'd feel being invited to one and not the other..  As I said in another post, I consider an Aunt and Uncle immediate family but don't know the reasoning or circumstances.  

[Mom2Dogs]

@I am still oxox, DH and  were invited to my nieces wedding 2 years ago....my sister and I do not speak but we got an invitation to the wedding!!!

We did not go but sent a check, we never received a thank you, fast forward to a month ago....invitation to a baby shower!   I did not acknowledge the event.

[Carmie]

Wedding thank you’s can be sent up to one year after the ceremony, but within three months is the norm.

i think up to a year is considered proper because at one time, the couple would take a honeymoon that could last months.  

[suzyQ3]

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@Carmiewrote:

Wedding thank you’s can be sent up to one year after the ceremony, but within three months is the norm.

i think up to a year is considered proper because at one time, the couple would take a honeymoon that could last months.  

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@Carmie, pre-the Wright brothers? :-)

[ccassaday]

That is ridiculous. What would of been so hard sending out two different onres. You still would have had to send out the same.

[Carmie]

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@suzyQ3wrote:

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@Carmiewrote:

Wedding thank you’s can be sent up to one year after the ceremony, but within three months is the norm.

i think up to a year is considered proper because at one time, the couple would take a honeymoon that could last months.  

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@Carmie, pre-the Wright brothers? :-)

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LOL maybe.  It would be too expensive to do today,but it is still lists in the book of manners that the couple has up to one year.  

That a long, long time and there is no excuse.  Everyone should be able to send them out..better later than never.

i sent mine out about a month later.  I had to write hundreds... our guest list was huge...over 500 people showed up, many had to decline, but sent a gift.

One fell behind a desk and I found it more than a year later when we were moving.  It was addressed to my Aunt and Uncle.  I wrote a letter explaining what happened and enclosed the thank you card still in the addressed stamped envelope along with the letter.  I was so embarrassed.

My Mother told me my Aunt would think I was a bad housekeeper, because I never moved to desk to vacuum behind it in all that time.  No arguing with that.

[faeriemoon]

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@chrystaltreewrote:

It's as straight foward as it can possibly be.  You didn't get the "note" so you aren't invited to the ceremony.  Please do not put the family in an uncomfortable position and embarrass youself by asking.  

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Agree!!!!!

I will also say they handled it badly.  There should have been separate invitations for those who were invited to both, and for those who were only invited to one event.