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[Shorty2U]

I had written on a thread long ago that I have an aquaintance on facebook that I play game with. (I know her through her oldest grown adult daughter). Her husband left her & children for another woman. She posts her drama daily. I didnt know if I should delete her, hide her comments, or send her a message. I decided to hide her comments and not delete her (because she never did anything wrong to me and I thought if I continue to play games with her on FB such as word games it may help her mentally). But I always wanted to just send her a note to try to help her.

Well today I wrote the note. I havent heard back yet. BUT since I last wrote that other thread. She has now had a heart attack, many arguements with her husband, and they got into a tiff and shoving match! Police were called. But she continues to spew her life all over facebook and you can tell shes falling apart! She even wrote down the name of the woman her husband is with which I couldnt believe when I saw it! (yes I hide the comments but before I do, I see them).

So I finally wrote to her in a PRIVATE message and said. "Dear so and so, I realize we are not good friends and I only know you through your daughter and seeing you out and about when I lived in your area. But I have seen your posts for many months and my heart goes out to you. I know that you are going through a very bad time and maybe its none of my business. But for your own good you should take care of yourself and your children first and foremost. Then hire a good lawyer and decide what you are going to do to move on. I realize you are very upset about the break up of your marriage, but when you rant and rave on FB you are giving him the upper hand. Again this is none of my business, so you can yell at me, but I am worried about your well being because I saw that you had a heart attack over this and got into physical contact in an argument with him.

Then I wrote that I went through something like her when my first husband cheated and left and I wrote life does get better, even though it doesnt seem like it now but I am remarried and very happy now. I said to her one day she will look back and say what was I thinking? I said your husband isnt worth you and your children getting sick. Then I said take care and God Bless you. I am praying for you. (she is very religious)

I know it is none of my business but I mean this woman had an actual heart attack over her husband who is running around w someone and could care LESS. So I hope and pray that she finds the strength to do what she needs to. My husband said I should just delete her, but I couldnt do it and had to write her because I went through a broken marriage many years ago, and I know what shes going through.

Well if I dont hear from her thats FINE. But I tried. I could not sit back and say nothing anymore.

Was I wrong to try to help her? I know its not my business, but I feel bad for her.