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[LilacTree]

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@MaggieMack wrote:

@Suziepeach, I know exactly what you mean about the posters who chew you out, like they have a monopoly on being right on ANY given issue. I don't mind people disagreeing with me, and can even enjoy a sincere back and forth, but some posters think they own the universe of being right. And don't hesitate to let you know. I always wonder if they're married, and if they are, what does the spouse think???

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I wouldn't call it "chewing me out."  She criticizes me and then always couches it with how much she cares about me.  As I said somewhere else in this thread, it's hard to decipher what she is doing.

[LilacTree]

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@orangegarnet wrote:

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@MaggieMack wrote:

So, if you are not allowed to politely disagree with her without setting her off, you have a wonderful opportunity to use the Real Life Ignore Button and banish her from your emotional environment. I wish we had that button here. 

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@MaggieMack, oh how I wish we had that ignore button back too!!  I've had two give me more than advice, it's called a new one!  LOL LOL  nothing like a good, old fashion chewing out of a complete stranger.. I'll give them some advice but the mods would ban me forever..

Like I tell people when they give me advice, "How old do you think I am, I can perfectly think for myself and give myself the best advice ever."  Some people think they can speak for everyone as they know everything!!

@LilacTree, I had a friend like that once..  she'd get so mad when I didn't take her advice.. I'd call her a matriarch of sorts and we no longer are in contact. 

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My lifelong friend was like that, especially about money.  She would do anything for money and could never understand why I wouldn't.  However, she's the winner because she is very rich now and I am at the opposite end of that spectrum, LOL.

[Mothertrucker]

A"winner" in whose eyes?

[tansy]

Hi, Lilac Tree.  If the advice centers on one particular topic, like maybe your finances, you can avoid ever bringing that up.  

[foundinlv]

[foundinlv]

and.....

[LilacTree]

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@tansy wrote:

Hi, Lilac Tree.  If the advice centers on one particular topic, like maybe your finances, you can avoid ever bringing that up.  

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No, Tansy, it is not about money.  That was someone else and years ago.

You know the new term around these days . . . "it's complicated," which could mean a host of things?  That's what this issue is, and I wrote because it's the first time in a long while I had a reason to, and to see how others would handle the situation if they encountered it. 

I received some very intelligent responses which I appreciate very much. 

Thanks to everyone.

[LilacTree]

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@Mothertrucker wrote:
A"winner" in whose eyes?

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Hers.  I have never cared that much about money.

[dooBdoo]

Wow.  This does sound complicated.  I really can't add anything of value here, other than to say I saw this thread and wanted to tell you it's good to see you posting again, @LilacTree, and I hope you and yours are well.

[LilacTree]

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@SaRina wrote:

As I've gotten older, I have found it is a drain on my valuable time and energy to "entertain" "friends" whose thoughts/ideas/temperament don't jibe with mine.  It seems like this friend is a source of constant annoyance.

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It's certainly not "constant" as we do not communicate often.  It's just that when we do, it is always something that is critical of what I either say or do, together with how much she cares, so I never know how to interpret it.