@LilacTree
I really appreciated your post. I have one sibling. We have always been very different. We were raised by parents who loved both of us dearly and were pretty comfortable fiancially. But I became my own person and am very very different in my world view than my sister. She is older by three and a half years.
We stopped socializing and that continued for three decades! When we would talk to each other, it was difficult, even though there was the understanding that we loved each other.
Now that we are older, we have started to see each other a little. And now it all comes back: why don't you....are you sure that's a good idea....it's not good to do....
and please don't get into religion or politics!!!!!!We are worlds apart. And now that we have grown children, her kids are just like she is, and my kids are more like me..
so the divide continues.
One time I had to stop her in mid sentence and say, " Please!!! I am in my sixties now, and I know what I plan to do..."
The irony is I have lived a happily married life, have two grown kids who are doing well and have always been a solid citizen. She treats me like I'm a loose
cannon.
Anyway, Lilactree, you probably didn't expect to get a response like this one!
I am venting because I can't stand unsolicited "advice" that must be followed. We are beyond grown up, and want to be treated as such.
As far as a friend like this---geez--I guess I wouldn't be too interested in a real friendship.
