Uneasy Flyer

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

I should probably post this is travel but I think I will get more answers here.

Leaving later this week and we have a 3 1/2 hour flight to our destination

I am okish once I get on the plane, but it it the hours and the days before that I obsess over everything including packing.

About 10 days out I make lists and lists.

I make sure that I have exactly everything needed and if I don't holy heck

I somehow think my negative thoughts are going to influnce the plane

I know this is not normal but I can not seem to control it.

Kind words would be appreciated.

Thank you all

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

FranandZoe · ‎03-09-2010

Well I don't know about being normal but I'm the same way. I'm a nervous wreck basically from the time we book the flights - sometimes six months ahead. I worry about keeping my house spotless, keeping all the clothes washed and ironed, having everything I need for the trip. I keep a "master" list and make copies as each trip comes up. Then I add to it as needed. I organize everything that I'm packing about a week before too. I hate to pack. We were supposed to be leaving for Florida today but due to an accident my hubby had we cancelled. I'm actually so glad. I'm always so worried about leaving my two cats too even tho we have a great kitty-sitter in my step-son. I miss them so much when we're gone. It's funny but I'm the same way - just fine - once we're headed to the airport. Not too nervous about actual flying altho I do pray and I wear a lucky coin necklace. I don't fly without it.

Since I'm worse than you I know I'm not making you feel better. Just have a great trip and know that you're not alone.

FrostyBabe1 · ‎05-09-2016

The risk of being involved in an automobile accident on the way to the airport is far, far greater than that of being involved in an aviation incident. I’ve flown well over a million butt-in-seat miles and have never, ever had an incident. Delays, a few cancellations, schedule changes, yes. But that’s it.

All of the OCD list making, checking and rechecking only serves to make you more anxious. If you truly need to make a packing list, fine. Some people do. I don’t. The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy doing something other than travel prep.

I’ve seen lots of posts where people drug themselves to fly and I personally think it’s a horrible idea. Load a meditation or relaxation app on your phone and listen to that (with headphones, of course) once you are on board.

~The more someone needs to brag about how wonderful, special, successful, wealthy or important they are, the greater the likelihood that it isn't true. ~

godi · ‎03-09-2010

I stress also. I have lists and reworked lists. My DH always says if we forget something it’s not like we can’t buy it. He’s right but the perfectionist I am has to always have it all packed. I don’t worry about the flight till the day before, I check constantly if it’s on time etc. I think travel is stressful on a lot of people but in different ways. Just know in the end you will get where your going when you get there and then relax and enjoy your time away. ❤️

FranandZoe · ‎03-09-2010

Re drugs or alcohol - I always say I want to be stone cold sober with my wits about me when I crash. Just kidding of course.

I know the stats - I think it's something about not being in control of the plane myself. I dunno. I've been flying for 40 years - at least once a years and sometimes twice - I can't help how I feel.

Witchy Woman · ‎03-15-2010

@I am still oxox

What's not normal about it?

You are not alone in your feelings.

As a young woman, I was enthralled with flying. Took ground school and some flight lessons. I understand how flight works! In my 20s, I applied for a job as a flight attendent with American (didn't get it). I've dated commercial pilots who assured me it was safer than driving.

And yet, I feel just as you do. Even the thought of having to book a flight sets me off. The rare times I fly, it is white knuckle during takeoff and landing. And, I don't like a lot of activity in the plane!

I've learned there is no cure for this other than just gritting my teeth and getting through it. Some recommend drinks or relaxers, but....it's never worked for me. I just feel anxious through the fog

I have no words of wisdom, but I do understand.

Vivian · ‎03-11-2010

One of my daughters loves to travel but hates to fly. She tried psychological counseling but it didn’t work. She finally went to her family doctor who prescribed Xanax. She takes just one pill before each flight. She flies about three times a year so she is OK with the meds.

kaydee50 · ‎02-07-2011

No matter how many trips I've taken over the past 40+ years I still get anxious in the days before leaving. I've learned however that the only things I really need are a passport and a credit card. Everything else I might need can be purchased regardless of where I'm traveling. That's helps me a bit!!!

I do keep a list of all the toiletries and medicines I might need and check it off as I pack.

I don't relax until I'm on the plane.

hayseed00 · ‎11-24-2011

@I am still oxoxHave a wonderful and safe trip. I'm just like you, my husband tells me he never has to worry about anything because I worry enough for both of us.