Two Bridal Shower Gifts For One Wedding?

Mimi 1883 · ‎03-15-2010

I don't really know what to make of this, or what to do. The couple involved, and most relatives/family friends, live about 1,000 miles away.

Yesterday, I received another bridal shower invitation for our niece. She was supposed to be married early last month (May,) but due to the virus, they postponed the wedding until November.

We initially received a bridal shower invitation for a date in March, and sent her a very generous monetary gift. We did receive a thank you card from her. Later, it was announced that the shower was being canceled due to the virus. We weren't attending, but they did let us know. They later announced that their wedding, to be held early last month (May,) is being postponed until November.

Now, I received another invitation for her bridal shower (July,) along with a list of stores/shops where they are registered. Do I send another gift? Ignore the invitation? My husband and friends say to "ignore" it. I feel bad if I don't send something...again.

I just wonder what happened to all the gifts from the first shower announcement? We can't be the only people who gave a gift.

F/N/A luvstogarden

mom2four0418 · ‎04-23-2010

You have already sent a gift for the postponed shower, correct? Why would you send another one?

“The soul is healed by being with children.”
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

I'm thinking that the one generous first shower gift is more than enough.

Since she lives 1,000 miles away, and you most likely won't be able to attend, I'd ignore the second shower.

Just send a RSVP that you won't be able to attend.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

beckyb1012 · ‎03-09-2010

Your husband is very wise. Ignore!!

"Live frugally, but love extravagantly."

Katcat1 · ‎07-21-2011

@Mimi 1883 I would send the new bridal shower invitation back with a note that you previously sent her gift (monetary) but never heard back from anyone. It is so rude to not thank people for their gifts. I would NOT send another gift. If you feel obligated that is your guilt.

kindness is strength

maximillion · ‎09-17-2010

It is still the same bridal shower, just at a postponed date. Since you won't be attending and have already sent your gift, and received a thank you note, nothing further is necessary. You were invited a second time, in case you were able to attend the new date. Even if you did attend, you still would not have to bring a gift, since you have already done so.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

Sounds greedy to me, I would ignore.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Mz iMac · ‎07-26-2014

Agree w/the OP above me. If you feel bad, send another card w/a reminder of your previous generous gift. That should make you feel better.

"Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference."

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@Katcat1 wrote:
@Mimi 1883 I would send the new bridal shower invitation back with a note that you previously sent her gift (monetary) but never heard back from anyone. It is so rude to not thank people for their gifts. I would NOT send another gift. If you feel obligated that is your guilt.

@Katcat1

The Op said she DID receive a thank you for the gift in March.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.