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[hoosieroriginal]

I also rely on my great gut instinct about people - it has never failed me.  It is instant when I meet someone - like or don't like.  Phony or non-phony. 

[Pqfan]

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@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:

Do you trust new people easily and freely, or do you feel that trust is something to be earned?

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For me,trust is something to be earned.

I really have a hard time trusting people.

I am working on it but it doesn't come easy for me.

It never has.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

Not to toot my own horn - TOOT TOOT - but I'm pretty good at reading people one-on-one.  🤣

[maestra]

earned, and rightfully so.

[NicksmomESQ]

    Over the years I've been burned by too many people I trusted.Aside from my DH & son I proceed with extreme caution & trust nobody!! Just the other day I was hurt pretty badly by a close friend.My DH & I are in shock that she did what she did!! We are currently trying to figure out how to navigate through it!!

  This just  reinforces to me that "you are your own best friend"!! If you don't look out for you no one else will!!

  I wish that I didn't feel this way.But I've been kicked to many times.People have continuously taken advantage of my good nature.

[jaxs mom]

Well I'm distrustful of people that seem to be data mining internet forums. 

[YorkieonmyPillow]

@NicksmomESQ  I feel your pain and can relate. Oh the stories I could tell but I won't bore you with the details.

Ultimately, I blame myself for caring too much, wanting too much to help another person, etc. Better to keep those boundary walls high and well-maintained, IMHO.

[IamMrsG]

@Annabellethecat66, the more I read of your posts, the better I like you.

[IamMrsG]

I don't hold grudges, but once you've taught me you cannot be trusted, I will remember the lesson learned.

[BalletBabe]

This is a hard question:  Like others I have trusted too much and ended up getting stabbed.  I am not one to invite someone into my home unless I truly trust them. That seems to take awhile for me.  I think I am more cautious since my hubby passed. 

I trusted my neighbor when my husband passed, and look how that turned out.  He ended up stalking me, and I had to report him to the police. We had been friends with them for 13 years.    

I think in this day and age you have to be careful.  I definitly agree that trust has to be earned.