Tough Several Upcoming Days

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

Tomorrow January 26 kicks off three tough days for me. The 26th is my deceased mom's birthday, the 30th my deceased brother's birthday, and the 31st the 4th anniversary of my mother's death. I miss my mom and brother very much, these days are a reminder of how much.

bells4me · ‎03-13-2010

Sorry for your losses. Everyone has these days.

lynnie61 · ‎04-28-2010

@Jordan2 Take care. Wow, I can't believe it's four years for your mom already. I know it's tough. (((Hugs))). My mom will be gone 24 years this year and it seems like yesterday. I'm sorry for your losses.

Greeneyedlady21 · ‎01-06-2015

Yes the birthdays and anniversaries are so painful, allow yourself to grieve in whatever ways you want to.

"Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”

Mersha · ‎03-10-2010

@Jordan2 Rather than looking at these upcoming days as difficult or tough, celebrate the fact that these special people shared a life with you. You were both blessed to have each other.

Maybe you could use the days to do something you did with them for enjoyment. They would most definitely want you to have a happy life and not be burdened or sad.

This is what I try to do with difficult days. Remember the happy times, not the sad.

"My desire to be well informed is currently at odds with my desire to remain sane."

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@Mersha wrote:
@Jordan2 Rather than looking at these upcoming days as difficult or tough, celebrate the fact that these special people shared a life with you. You were both blessed to have each other.

Maybe you could use the days to do something you did with them for enjoyment. They would most definitely want you to have a happy life and not be burdened or sad.

This is what I try to do with difficult days. Remember the happy times, not the sad.

Agree. Similiar to what I was going to post.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

@Jordan2 - It is hard, and it hits us every time. Whether you are remembering the date of losing one loved one or more than one, like us, the sun doesn't seem to shine.

I try to get away from the house if I find myself home, and keep busy.

As a person of faith I find comfort in devotions and prayer.

We are here for you. We will be thinking of you and praying. And we can always post! Take care. (((HUGS)))

happilyretiredgirl · ‎06-17-2020

January is a tough month for me too, my deceased brother in law birthday was the 13th, my sister was the 20th, my brother's was the 23rd. My best friend who suffers from Alzheimer's birthday was the 18th and she no longer knows who I am. We have been best friends for over 40 years and met each other at work. It's a sad month for me.

DSD2 · ‎01-09-2016

Some wounds are more grievous than others and take more time to heal.

My deepest condolence for your painful losses. I'm sure your mother and brother are keeping watch over you. May your pain lessen a bit each year and may you have God's grace to remember the joyous times spent together.

Goodie2shoes · ‎04-30-2012

@ Jordan2 I understand it's tough when birthdays and anniversaries of the death of loved ones comes around but be encouraged that you loved them and were able to spend time with them when they were here and that they are now resting in peace with no more troubles to encounter on this earth. I lost my mom to Covid in 2020 as I have mentioned here before and when her birthday comes I visit her grave and place flowers and tell her how much I love her. She heres me and knows that I love her and know she is in a better place with no more pain and suffering. God Bless you and your family and to God be the glory !