Too late to respond?

Nicnacsmommy · ‎08-18-2014

I am not tech savvy at all. I just read a Facebook post yesterday about messages from people who aren't on your friends list going to another in box. I checked mine and has messages. That being said...My husband passed away almost a year and a half ago. One of the messages that I had was from my ex-husband sending his condolences. After all of this time do I respond or acknowledge this message?

GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

Sounds like a nice gesture to me. Did you think it was a nice gesture? If so, why not respond with a short note saying you just saw the post and thank him. If you don't want to stir up things, ignore it.

LTT1 · ‎03-09-2010

@Nicnacsmommy

I am not sure what to tell you.

This happened (or similar) after my DSIL passed. About a year later I noticed the messages and opened/read.

If you KNOW the person, and want to acknowledge I might be tempted to contact the FB "team" that oversee privacy settings, etc.

Just to check that these messages are legit.

~Have a Kind Heart, Fierce Mind, Brave Spirit~

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

First of all, I have to say how sorry I am for the loss of your husband.

I don't know what your relationship is with your ex, but if it would make you feel better to contact him and explain the situation why it's taken so long to acknowledge him, then definitely do it.

alicedee · ‎07-25-2010

If it were me, I would send a message back saying I had just discovered another Facebook inbox and found your message from when X passed away, and thank him for his kindness in sending it.

Its totally up to you if if you want to respond...don't know what kind of relationship you have with your ex.

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

IMHO, it is never to late to acknowledge a kindness. I would say something like obviously, you were too sad at the time and did not check your account as often or intently as you should have. Explain you just came across his message and wanted him to now how touched you are that he reached out to you at that difficult time.

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

If I were in your situation, I would do as others here have said. Write back, and explain that you just saw the message. His kindness should not be ignored, and I don't think there's a time limit on that.

Lots of people don't know to check for messages from non-Facebook friends, by the way. But now you do!

My deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband.

Catty2 · ‎09-06-2014

I had something similar happen before I was aware of my FB Timeline page. When I finally did see my Timeline page I had birthday wishes from a year ago. Since they were sent so long ago, I didn't respond.

Zhills · ‎11-15-2011

Most Facebook users do not know about the extra inbox. It can be a nice feature if you are not friends with the person you want to contact. I do not like having lots of friends that can see everything I post and I don't really enjoy a lot of what they post. Hate it when conversations are on the timeline instead of using the inbox. Some get quite personal.

software · ‎06-08-2016

I wouldn't but if you ever had an opportunity to see him or otherwise contact him, you could mention you saw it. No explanation necessary.

OK so he saw the notice in the newspaper & looked you up on Facebook? I guess I'm an old stick in the mud but I still believe in picking up the phone or sending a card. I wouldn't worry about it.

@Nicnacsmommy wrote:
I am not tech savvy at all. I just read a Facebook post yesterday about messages from people who aren't on your friends list going to another in box. I checked mine and has messages. That being said...My husband passed away almost a year and a half ago. One of the messages that I had was from my ex-husband sending his condolences. After all of this time do I respond or acknowledge this message?