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[Carmie]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

I'm not understanding the issue with tipping bartenders at weddings.

If not signed in a contract, there really is no way to determine if that tip will be given at the end of the reception; nor is there a way to determine if the tip would be appropriate.  One can say they will tip up at the end and then bail out.

If a contract is signed with the tip amount included, I would suspect it is a tip for servers and bartenders to split since there is no way to determine how much alcohol will be served.

Some people will tip whether there a jar or not and some will tip whether it is an open bar or not.

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I don't know know how it works everywhere, but where I live, if you have an "open bar" you have to pay a set fee ($$) for each guest no matter if they drink alochol or not...even for guests under age 21.   They charge you around 30% for tipping the bartenders on top of the open bar fee.  They do not charge for each drink.

You must also tip the servers.  The tip is mandatory and is listed on the bill as a seperate charge.

The total bill must be paid in full before the reception is held.   I don't  know how much the bartenders make, but they sure get tipped well. No tip jar is needed.

[Group 5 minus 1]

Asked DH what he thought. He thinks this is very unprofessional,

[ValuSkr]

If I saw a tip jar at the pharmacy counter, I'd take my business elsewhere.  And I'd send an email to corporate letting them know what happened.

[CelticCrafter]

I wonder if the store manager even knows they are doing this?  Sometimes you see something and you're blind to it.

[Cakers3]

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Cakers3 wrote:

I'm not understanding the issue with tipping bartenders at weddings.

If not signed in a contract, there really is no way to determine if that tip will be given at the end of the reception; nor is there a way to determine if the tip would be appropriate.  One can say they will tip up at the end and then bail out.

If a contract is signed with the tip amount included, I would suspect it is a tip for servers and bartenders to split since there is no way to determine how much alcohol will be served.

Some people will tip whether there a jar or not and some will tip whether it is an open bar or not.

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I don't know know how it works everywhere, but where I live, if you have an "open bar" you have to pay a set fee ($$) for each guest no matter if they drink alochol or not...even for guests under age 21.   They charge you around 30% for tipping the bartenders on top of the open bar fee.  They do not charge for each drink.

You must also tip the servers.  The tip is mandatory and is listed on the bill as a seperate charge.

The total bill must be paid in full before the reception is held.   I don't  know how much the bartenders make, but they sure get tipped well. No tip jar is needed.

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@Carmie   That would make sense more than a promise by the wedding party to give a tip at the end of the reception.  There would be no way to enforce a promise vs. something signed in writing.

It would be very ill-mannered to say we will "generously" tip at the end of the reception and then bail out.  "Generously" is also subjective.

I know restaurants automatically add a certain % of tip if the party is more than a pre-determined number, such as parties over  6 or 8 for example.  I have no issue with that policy, either.

Maybe it isn't good manners to have a tip jar out if it is an open bar

[NicksmomESQ]

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@Ibby114 wrote:

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@NicksmomESQ wrote:

@Ibby114  Nope it was on Long Island several weeks ago where the infection rate was under 1%.Everyone was safe & no one got sick. Goes to show you can follow the rules & still have a good time.

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@NicksmomESQ Long Island didn't get hit too bad the entire time- I'm from Suffolk Cty (now in NJ) and lots of my friends post pictures of events on fb. Hardly any mask wearing though! I hope they contuinue to be healthyy & safe. 

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@Ibby114  Where I live on Long Island & where my son lives everyone wears masks & practices social distancing. All the stores & restaurants we visit ask you to leave if you don't comply.

   But there are always those groups & venues that unfortunately don't comply.Several have been getting in trouble . You just can't fix stupid.

[Cakers3]

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@NYC Susan wrote:

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@millieshops wrote:

@Mersha I've never seen a tip jar anywhere in the pharmacy I use, but if one were to appear, I'd ignore it.  The only jars into which I put a tip are those where I would have tipped if I were sitting at a table to eat or drink.

I really don't care if they ask -  I know how to say no in many different ways, but ignoring those tip jars is really the easiest no of all.

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I agree.  I've never seen a tip jar at a pharmacy, and I think that's inappropriate.  So I would ignore it, just the same as I do if I see a tip jar anywhere else where I opt not to leave a tip.  Super-easy.

I wouldn't say anything or make a big deal about it.  Or move all of my prescriptions to another pharmacy, which was in a comment upthread.  I would just pick up my prescription and move on with my life.  There's enough to get upset about lately, and I prefer to choose my battles.  It's just a jar on a counter that can simply be ignored.

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@NYC Susan   LOL Then the new pharmacy puts out a jar and then one must find a third pharmacy.

You know-people cause their own stress and then blame the world for it everytime.

You are so right-it's just a jar on a counter that can simply be ignored.

The OP asked a valid question having never seen a tip jar in a pharmacy but some are taking this into the stratosphere. 

I'm more concerned that DH and I even have to have some meds; our health really takes priority over a silly jar.

[Melzie]

I picked up a pizza the other day at a drive through window and when the girl handed me my change she handed me the paper money and then asked if I wanted the change too!  Yes, I do!  If I wanted to give you a tip I would have said to keep the change. Making pizza (possibly), taking an order, and handing me the pizza is your job and you get paid for that.  All you did was hand the pizza through a window so how does that deserve a tip?  I thought that was a pretty bold move to actually ASK.  If you disagree with me that is your prerogative but please don't start sending me negative replies for voicing my opinion.   

[Witchy Woman]

@Mersha 

What can I say that has not already been said?  But, I've had a good laugh.

Never, ever have I seen a "tip jar" at the pharmacy.  Very odd, indeed.  That's one I'd ask about or just ignore as others have pointed out.

I have always been a generous tipper having worked as a cocktail waitress in my younger days.  I can remember many nights I worked from 8 until 1 a.m. in high heels, and would have a handful of change...received a nickel and dime at a time.  Not much, but I never complained even though I felt grumpy about it.  

I'd hustle a table full of drinks and get a quarter   It was that kind of place...kind of a road house atmoshere and rather rough and tumble at times.  Sometimes guys would be generous, but I never counted on it.

Best tippers were always the woman that had waited tables.  They knew how much work it was.

I always try to keep in mind that most need the tips...one night at a Sonic I left around $5 for a couple of ice cream cones because I didn't want to wait for change.

As always, I thanked my lucky stars I had enough money in my pocket that I could be generous with others.

However, I draw the line at pharmacy tip jars 

[suzyQ3]

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@kivah wrote:

Several years ago, whenever I went into Walmart - there was a Jar asking for money for a charity. Sooooo annoying - especially when the checkout person asked if u want to leave a tip. I told her that I know a very rich family where she could get lots of money - their name is Walton.

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@kivah, I see nothing whatsoever wrong that type of jar at all. If you don't want to donate, that's fine.

Our supermarket has the option when you insert your credit card. You can choose an amount or decline.