Thoughts on final resting place - Page 5

candys mine · ‎08-20-2012

@Kachina624 Our plot has a liner so it would be a CEMENT BOTTOM!

candys mine · ‎08-20-2012

@smoochy If you Both plan on cremation, there are little jewelry like containers that can hold a bit of ashes. If you have one that containes some of the spouses cremains, then you both can be with each other where ever you want to go and the rest can be handled as you wish.

My thought is, my Spirit has no bounds.

Skyegirl21 · ‎03-20-2010

Ask your family and decide with your gut. Your family are ones left to visit and remember you...

To me, once you are gone, you won't know, so none of it matters!
My parents bought 2 mausoleum spaces and honestly, at my Dads funeral, closing that crypt was extremely creepy to me- My mom has only asked to visit him once in 7 yrs and I will never go there (but I was not close to him).
I think once it's over, none of it matters... My philosophy.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

I'm entitled to a spot in the national or state veterans cemetery. I have a cremains spot in a local cemetery and that's just fine with me.

We rescue cats · ‎01-25-2023

I respectfully disagree @Kachina624, this is something I have often thought about. I think at my age many of us think about it. We have no children and I have no natural siblings nor known immediate family. To me the funeral business is crazy expensive from beginning to end, so I prefer to be cremated and if we still own this property spread them here. If we do not and he is still alive. . . do as my husband directs. I've never been one to visit graves, though I used to do flowers for Memorial Day on the family graves. I think of my deceased family members and friends often, and I talk to many of them daily. All the cremains of our pets are in a cabinet, my DH says he will add them to wherever he deposits me! And I'm happy about that.

Lynn-Critter Lover!
(especially cats!)

Seminole2 · ‎01-16-2020

@We rescue cats ditto for me....I do not have any siblings or children. My hubby is 12 yrs older than me. We both want to be cremated. All of my animal ashes are in a closet. Hoping that the person we have appointed will honor our wishes for all of us to be together but not in the trash Love my cats and dogs.

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

@Kachina624 wrote:
Nothing excites like a bunch of women discussing what going to be done with their dead bodies. That's about as good as discussions on the board get these days, that and the weather. No wonder so many people have dropped out.

We've hit rock bottom with this thread. Just think about it.

Interesting that you find this interesting post and topic so horrible yet you continue to read and chime in. I think you have hit rock bottom and need to get out once in awhile. Planning for death is not tacky, it is reality. We learn and get ideas from sharing with one another.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

My son,and husband were cremated, i will be also,they are buried at our local cemetary.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

@Kachina624 wrote:
Nothing excites like a bunch of women discussing what going to be done with their dead bodies. That's about as good as discussions on the board get these days, that and the weather. No wonder so many people have dropped out.

We've hit rock bottom with this thread. Just think about it.

You are so wrong,very important to think of where you want to be.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

webbgarner1 · ‎06-13-2017

@smoochy Something to consider. I lost both of my parents many years ago and as a younger person i thought i would visit their graves often and did for awhile, placing flowers at certain times of the year and reflecting. Howevere as i have gotten older and my health has deteriorated , i am no longer able to do so. Even if someone took me there i would not be able to walk and stand at the gravesite. And actually I do not miss it at all..

I think what is more important to most is the relationship you had while living and the memories you carry with you.Our bodies are meant to wear out, the person you are, the essence of who you are will go on your soul and spirit will be somewhere else, not in the grave. The body returns to dust.But if it were me, i would prefer to be next to my husband. He is my life partner and in not my parents and siblings.