Community Chat

[Sooner]

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@Kachina624 wrote:

Imagine, here I thought cleaning your ears was a distasteful subject on a public forum.  This one takes the cake for tacky  bad taste.

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@Kachina624 Seriously?  I don't see your point.  It's just about where you'll be buried or whatever.  It happens to all of us.

I have no real care about it, I think partially becasue I was born to really old parents, their only child and I have buried them long ago for the most part.

 I don't visit graves, it's just not a big thing to worry about to me.  It's just remains, not them.  But not something I avoid talking about.  

[vermint]

DH & I bought 2 plots in our church cemetery years ago...much less expensive than any "public" cemetery around here. We have since decided to be cremated, and will only need one plot for both urns--again, much less expensive than a coffins, and no need for a concrete vault or any cost for "opening" graves. In fact, we were told that we can dig our own holes since cremains containers are small.

I was horrified at the cost of opening the mausoleum space where my parents are buried--$1,500 each time, just to remove and replace the small cover!

[Desert Lily]

@smoochy  Maybe your decision depends on whom you felt most connected to in life.

I've been contemplating what I want to do for my final resting place. My grandparents are buried in the Midwest, and I was very close to my grandmother. They had a plot for me, but when I was married I gave it to my widowed great aunt.

My husband is buried in the MW too.

Both my parents are buried in a veterans' cemetery on the West Coast; when I lived there I visited 1-2 times/yr. 

My child & 1 of my siblings live here in PA, so I thought of being buried here.

But my child is 31, changed jobs & moved here from NY while working on a doctorate, and could move more times due to career. So, my child might not even live in PA if I were buried here. My sibling in PA wants to be cremated & have ashes scattered in the ocean.

I had a plot picked out in the Midwest a couple years ago but didn't purchase it. I'm not one for dividing ashes. I'd like my ashes in an urn and buried inside a casket with some other items (fur baby's ashes, family photo, etc.) No service.

I'm not getting any younger & I think it's important to plan rather than leave my family scurrying.

I just don't know where.

[Regal Bee]

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@Kachina624 wrote:

Nothing excites like a bunch of women discussing what going to be done with their dead bodies.  That's about as good as discussions on the board get these days, that and the weather.  No wonder so many people have dropped out.

We've hit rock bottom with this thread.  Just think about it.

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I think so many people have dropped out  because it is becoming increasingly difficult to state an opinion on the board without being verbally 'jumped on.' It is getting really old. 

By the way:  I want to be buried next to my husband.

[stevieb]

@smoochy  Michigan. They're just going to be ashes. Nix to the half and half idea. Why take up two sites? If you don't have strong feelings and your spouse doesn't have strong feelings then go with your family where it sounds like others might prefer to visit.

[CelticCrafter]

Not in an urn and not in the dirt so that only leaves a community mausoleum for me.

I also don't want anything, nothing as far as a viewing, funeral or memorial.  Let my husband if he's still alive, daughter, son-in-law and grandson see me, close the cover and take me away.

[I am still oxox]

Due to my religion I can not be , have not made any decision as yet but I think I want to be near my parents and my husband who ever should go first 

[smoochy]

I broached the topic again with my husband. He said he would be fine with both of us resting in my family's site in Michigan. That is his home state actually, he was born not far from the town where we would be. My daughter said she will visit us wherever we are. So Michigan it is. I now have a sense of peace about this, knowing that is one less decision for the remaining loved ones to deal with. 

[Skyegirl21]

Agree with others, what's MORE important is good relationships now, here, so people have fond memories of you!  
My Father picked the most awful fight with me over nothing- his own stupid need for putting on a fancy show to others. He lost his temper so bad and I remember telling him "you're gonna have a heart attack". He was horribly mean to me. Sure enough,  2 months later, he died of a heart attack. All I remember of him now, is how mean he was, over nothing-  

[Still Raining]

State laws can vary, but for me I know where my ashes will go, on private land.  Check around.