Community Chat

[Jordan2]

I imagine everyone has pros and cons of where they place in the birth order. I am the youngest of three, I felt being the baby, I was treated as such. My brother was the oldest I thought he had a lot of freedom ( he thought I got away with murder)! My sister is the middle child I don't think she minded ( she doesn't like conflict, I don't think she ever took sides). I often wonder how people who were only children felt, we're they lonely, did they enjoy being in an adult world? The thing is when you don't have any siblings, as your parents age the responsibility falls on you, also when your parents are both gone you probably feel very alone. Just wondering where everyone else is in the birth order.

[Katcat1]

I was third in line of 3.  Two brothers and I am the baby girl.  Yes, I was spoiled but not overly.  I think there were times my brothers were jealous.

[deepwaterdotter]

I am the oldest and have always been relatively shy and retiring.

[ALRATIBA]

I'm the oldest of four (2 of each).girl / girl / boy / boy.  There are three of us still living.  Six and a half years between me and the youngest.

Never thoughjt much it about it.  We were all treated equally as far as I can recall. 

My youngest brother and I are particularly close, and his wife and I are good friends..

[jeanlake]

Such an interesting study. I think my middle sis stole the first born position from my brother. She's rich and brilliant and he was more reserved and brooding. It was her's for the taking, I guess. Being the youngest -- loved it. Observed siblings first-hand and learned what to do in life and what to dodge. Benefitted from their early life experiences. I married a first born. Business major. Once we married, discovered he was a bit too controlling but over the years he taught me to be more responsible and I've taught him to be more generous and compassionate. Thrilled it worked out that way. Could have been a mess. Youngest daughter dating oldest of four siblings. He's a planner to extremes. He'll calm down. She's a free spirit and he loves that about her, but she could be a little more responsible about personal business. I'm trusting they'll learn from one another. Middle daughter married a middle child. They negotiate a lot. During challenging times, neither think they're being heard. Interesting.   

[SilleeMee]

I'm the oldest of three, but I'm the only one living now. Both my parents are gone, too. So it's just me, no kids...just my sweet golden.

My family was never close. That's the military lifestyle for you...very dysfunctional.

[Imaoldhippie]

Im the oldest and my brother is 9 yrs younger.  Im responsible and he is not.

We both have a lot of issues since we were physically and emtionally abused by our mother.

[alicedee]

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@Imaoldhippie wrote:

Im the oldest and my brother is 9 yrs younger.  Im responsible and he is not.

We both have a lot of issues since we were physically and emtionally abused by our mother.

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I am truly sorry you both had to go through that.  😢

[AuntG]

My thought is I can't change my place in the family, but the topic is interesting.

[QVCkitty1]

I’m an only, and to be frank, it was great. I did relate more to adults, but I always had friends and my parents made sure I wasn’t spoiled .  I’m sure that in many cases it is nice to have siblings, but I don’t miss what I never had. It might have been nice to have help with my parents as their health failed, but on the good side there was no squabbling, my decisions for better or worse.🌺