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[irishmama5]

Hyacinth, when someone famous has something happen a birth or death its not that its more important its that they live their lives in the public so their grief or happiness is also public. I feel sorry for Joan's family esp. her daughter. Like so many of us that had to make End of Life decisions for a parent.

[NoelSeven]

The close relationship between Joan and Melissa is why I find it so heartbreaking.

I know what I went through when my mother died, and I know what my daughter went through when I almost died.

I think those very human and shared feelings are WHY we empathize with Melissa's loss of her mother, and should not be something we complain about.

[DoneTryin]

Never gave it much thought. I'm just glad that my family & I are not public figures. At least our business is OUR business - the good, the bad & the ugly.

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On 9/4/2014 esmerelda said:

hyacinth...I was thinking something similar. The recent interviews with the two medical people (a doctor and nurse?) who came back to the US and survived ebola.

What's the point of the interviews? So we can "oh!" and "aww" at what they say?

They were infected, they recovered...end of story...IMO.

Almost EVERYBODY gets 15 minutes of fame these days...most for no reason at all.

End of story?

Ebola is still spreading and people are still dying and the spread of infection is to put it mildly, alarming. It's with great urgency that we continue to work on a vaccine and a cure and their insight into how the virus infected them and how they survived is crucial in that process.

The only reason it's the "end of story" is because you're an egocentric American and could care less about what happens to people in other countries. You will change your tune dam fast when the first Ebola infected passenger manages to make his/her way onto a flight to JFK.

[MikafromTopeka]

On 9/4/2014 NoelSeven said:

The close relationship between Joan and Melissa is why I find it so heartbreaking.

I know what I went through when my mother died, and I know what my daughter went through when I almost died.

I think those very human and shared feelings are WHY we empathize with Melissa's loss of her mother, and should not be something we complain about.

That is how I feel too. I remember Joan on late night TV when I was a little girl and the age difference between Melissa and Joan is EXACTLY the same as it was between my mother and I who I lost just 9 weeks ago. My oldest son who I raised alone for a few years was my mother's world.

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Anderson Cooper 360

Funny to the end. This is what Joan Rivers wrote about her own funeral in her book "I Have Everyone... Starting With Me":

"When I die, I want my funeral to be a huge showbiz affair with lights, cameras, action...I want Craft services, I want paparazzi and I want publicists making a scene! I want it to be Hollywood all the way. I don't want some rabbi rambling on; I want Meryl Streep crying, in five different accents. I don't want a eulogy; I want Bobby Vinton to pick up my head and sing "Mr. Lonely." I want to look gorgeous, better dead than I do alive. I want to be buried in a Valentino gown and I want Harry Winston to make me a toe tag. And I want a wind machine so that even in the casket my hair is blowing just like Beyoncé's."

[occasionalrain]

While we have all been in similar situations, we've endured them privately. Imagine having to have to endure them publicly.

If there is any consolation to a death, it's that the person has been ill and we can take some comfort in that they will no longer suffer. But when someone is healthy and active but because of some accident or negligence dies it makes it so much harder.

[cody2]

On 9/4/2014 tansy said:

On 9/4/2014 Complicated said:

On 9/4/2014 Cakers1 said:

On 9/4/2014 scotttie said:

Hyacinth, I think it sounds like this news is bringing back your pain about your mother.

It is only natural that famous people get attention for these types of things. That's just how celebrity works.

We do often read about ordinary people and their struggles as well.

Take care ((((hugs))))

scottie: Very sweet of you to say to Hyacinth. Yes, certain tragedies strike a certain chord in most of us. {{{Hyacinth}}}

and btw: not sure why somebody should be thankful that their lives are not all over the news when tragedy strikes; tragedy is tragedy and never diminished by whether or not it's in the news.

I meant because you would have to deal with it in a very public way. All the time, not privately.

I would hate that. And yes, certain tragedies strike a certain cord in most of us, but I would not want to have it be headline news and web fodder.

That is my personal opinion, needless to say

I'm with you, Marianne. I'd hate being in the public eye and having every word or action scrutinized.

That makes three of us. The loss of my mother almost destroyed me for three years. It was a very personal and difficult journey. Had I had to have shared that grief with the world it might have very well destroyed me. Praying for support and strength to Melissa and Cooper.

[cody2]

On 9/4/2014 occasional rain said:

While we have all been in similar situations, we've endured them privately. Imagine having to have to endure them publicly.

If there is any consolation to a death, it's that the person has been ill and we can take some comfort in that they will no longer suffer. But when someone is healthy and active but because of some accident or negligence dies it makes it so much harder.

So true. The shock. It didn't have to happen. That does magnify the grief, IMO.

[NoelSeven]

On 9/4/2014 kaybee said:

On 9/4/2014 NoelSeven said:

The close relationship between Joan and Melissa is why I find it so heartbreaking.

I know what I went through when my mother died, and I know what my daughter went through when I almost died.

I think those very human and shared feelings are WHY we empathize with Melissa's loss of her mother, and should not be something we complain about.

That is how I feel too. I remember Joan on late night TV when I was a little girl and the age difference between Melissa and Joan is EXACTLY the same as it was between my mother and I who I lost just 9 weeks ago. My oldest son who I raised alone for a few years was my mother's world.

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Anderson Cooper 360

Funny to the end. This is what Joan Rivers wrote about her own funeral in her book "I Have Everyone... Starting With Me":

"When I die, I want my funeral to be a huge showbiz affair with lights, cameras, action...I want Craft services, I want paparazzi and I want publicists making a scene! I want it to be Hollywood all the way. I don't want some rabbi rambling on; I want Meryl Streep crying, in five different accents. I don't want a eulogy; I want Bobby Vinton to pick up my head and sing "Mr. Lonely." I want to look gorgeous, better dead than I do alive. I want to be buried in a Valentino gown and I want Harry Winston to make me a toe tag. And I want a wind machine so that even in the casket my hair is blowing just like Beyoncé's."

Kaybee, my condolences on the loss of your mother. I wish you strength during this very difficult time.

[cody2]

Kaybee, many of us here know what you are going through. As I tried to deal with the loss I kept wondering when I would "get over it". Finally, years later, a very close friend who had lost her mom years before I lost mine shared her wisdom with me when I asked her when SHE got over it. Her reply was very simple. I haven't gotten over it, I have just learned to live with it. That hit me like a ton of bricks because I finally realized...I will just have to learn to live with it. And I have.

You will too.