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[blackhole99]

@Grouchomarx  I like the same kind of entertainment you do and mostly enjoy it alone. My husband is not a movie buff, he will sit with me and watch a movie or listen to some music, but he doesn't have the staying power, he falls asleep.LOL I always say, I could sit on my dead butt and watch movies and listen to music 24/7. Thank goodness my husband loves to do house work.

[this is my nic]

I'm an only child, so I grew up entertaining myself!   Also, there were many children in our neighborhood, so I had friends nearby.   Having friends has always been very important to me, sadly 2 of my best friends moved away during the past couple years.  One was my neighbor; we were very close as we had a lot in common.  My new neighbor is wonderful, but she is very busy and doesn't have time for going to lunch, etc.   I'm finding,  with age, it's harder to find new friends.  Everyone is pretty much set in their ways.  I joined a community organization last Sept. hoping that would be an answer to my friend problem, but so far it hasn't. 

All that being said, I can still enjoy entertaining myself!  

[Regal Bee]

I am blessed to have a number of longtime friends and regular friends. But, they don't like my classical music and my choice of movies and television. It doesn't bother me at all. I enjoy my own company and have a library of high quality DVD's I watch. I watch almost no television because the lack of subject matter and the ads drive me crazy. 

I do enjoy having my friends over and visiting in their homes but I find that I don't enjoy lunches as much anymore and I don't shop with other women at all.....anymore. I am very focused and know what I want and don't need to look at everything in the store so I have stopped doing this and some of my girlfriends don't like it... but life is what it is. (I am having friends over for Christmas in July so I guess that is some kind of shopping.) 

I think we all change as we grow older. I am okay with it. I don't ask for permission anymore from anyone. I accept my friends and they accept me.

[SeaMaiden]

I am pretty much a  loner anymore.  I like doing things alone...

[Pqfan]

I like being home. I have been going out a lot more and I have a good time but my favorite place is home.🙂

[panda1234]

My "me time" is what I look forward to. I am a caregiver, on call 24/7 so I enjoy the stillness and peace most of all. 

[Pqfan]

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@panda1234 wrote:

My "me time" is what I look forward to. I am a caregiver, on call 24/7 so I enjoy the stillness and peace most of all. 

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[Grouchomarx]

Thanks for all your very thoughtful replies!

[Financialgrl]

I love to read as well. A friend and I used to both like James Patterson mysteries and would take a few with us on cruises and when done swap them to take back home to read. I let them stack up and love reading in the winter when it’s cold out.

[AngelPuppy1]

Being not retired for that long, I am still trying to transition from work life to being home every day, all day!  Some days I'm fine, but other days, I'm like --- well, what do I do, or now what?  I get this restless feeling like I don't know what I want to do with myself or I feel like I should be doing something but don't know what??? 

I get what you're saying.  All of my close friends have moved away to warmer clients and to be near their families.  

I have always been for the most part a loner and enjoy doing things myself but there are times when you like to share activities or experiences with someone.  DH is great but he is not in the best of health and can't do a lot.  I'm not that great either any more, so we can't do even half of what we used to.  That really limits you!  Plus, he hates shopping and doing some of the things I enjoy and some of the stuff he loves, I really don't like.  We try and be accommodating of  each other's likes and do things together like eating out.  Or --- he will do an activity for me that he doesn't like and then I will reciprocate.  

Back when I was a bit younger and in better health, I enjoyed going to museums, art exhibits, shows, different things going on in the neighborhood and nearby towns, craft shows, fairs, etc.  Now, it's too much walking.  

I read, watch t.v., and do some yard work and a bit of housework.  But am now trying to figure out what else I can do and want to do.  I was walking every morning and this was really enjoyable to me and made my day.  But recently, I am again having problems with a re-occuring ankle and foot problem and now I can't do that.  

Regards to talking to myself --- yes, of course!  I believe I answer myself also!

I don't think you're alone in this.  It's good to have alone time and to enjoy your own company because some people never learned how to do this.  But I think its good to also have times that you share with people as well.