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Some may remember how excited I was when my son got engaged last year? And some may remember my posts about the engagement party too.

I waited to post this but as of 3 weeks ago the wedding has been called off and my son broke it off with his fiancé. So he is single again.

Why? She started to get very bossy to the extent of telling him how to dress, crying if he wanted to spend time with his old friends (from his childhood), and was just controlling every thing. She even took her mom on vacation with them which he didnt mind @ the time, but he got to thinking everything is her and her family. He had spoken to her about her bossiness nicely months ago and she stopped for awhile. Then she started up again and it got worse and worse. I think she did this due to low self esteem. I don't know but that's what it seemed like, she was desperate?

To add, I stay out of my childrens relationships always unless they ask me some advice but I don't tell them what to do I kind of go over the pros and cons with them. But it seems her family was messaging my son when they had any kind of disagreement which got him mad.

Lastly, she was trying to get my son to have a child immediately due to her time clock ticking and other reasons. My son said she just kept it up daily and he told her he will not have a child out of wedlock. Also she had some personal woman issues and he was worried the child would be ill also. He spoke to her many times about it and tried to be kind knowing how much she wanted a baby and said he would rather wait till they were married. But she just kept it up.

Well he finally had enough of being bossed and he broke up with her. He really struggled in his decision and felt bad but of course he is made to look like the bad guy by many of her friends.

Also, he offered to pay for the down payment on the reception hall and reimbursement for the engagement party (all of which our family thought was done and planned too soon being the wedding was to be in 2015). But they said no.

I waited a bit (days) and wrote and asked if she will be returning the engagement gifts and so did my son. I shouldnt have written, I should have stayed out of it like I always do, and I regretted it because my son and I both got our heads torn off with mean and insulting messages back to us that we were rude. I understand her and her family were upset so I never bothered them again since.

Finally she held the ring and gifts hostage (for weeks saying she cant deal with it). So he let it go. She finally returned the ring and the engagement gifts for my sons side of the family. (I didn't care about getting mine back and most people didn't care but we all thought it was only right since the wedding is cancelled and they broke up). She also sent back holiday gifts which was not necessary.

My son offered to do everything he could to make this easier.

So its not always the guy, women do things too. No my son is not perfect but I am glad he made the decision now instead of ending up in a bad marriage. I do feel bad for his ex because she is still trying to text him and is quite upset.

But I also feel bad for my son. He is bummed out too. He really loved her and her family but I think he did the right thing. I hope one day he can find someone else to share his life with. He really wants to get married and have a family.