The sky isn't falling - Page 2

Bri369 · ‎11-03-2018

@Pearlee wrote:
@lulu1 wrote:
Be glad QVC gave a month's warning about closing these forums. I 've been on sites that one day they were in full swing, then the next day gone.

Alternatives have been established. It is not the end of the world.

I know many have established close friendships but if they are important, they will continue.

I am puzzled why you'd stopped shopping somewhere (better still, return orders) just because they've given notice they were discontinuing their forums.

Change is not always bad.
@lulu1 IMO the people who wrote they are returning items won't really do it.

@Pearlee You have absolutely no way of knowing that.

Pearlee · ‎06-11-2011

@Bri369 wrote:
@Pearlee wrote:
@lulu1 wrote:
Be glad QVC gave a month's warning about closing these forums. I 've been on sites that one day they were in full swing, then the next day gone.

Alternatives have been established. It is not the end of the world.

I know many have established close friendships but if they are important, they will continue.

I am puzzled why you'd stopped shopping somewhere (better still, return orders) just because they've given notice they were discontinuing their forums.

Change is not always bad.
@lulu1 IMO the people who wrote they are returning items won't really do it.
@PearleeYou have absolutely no way of knowing that.

@Bri369 😂😂😂 Of course not, hence I wrote "IMO."

Geez if you are going to stalk me around just to diss my posts as you do, at least read them right. FYI IMO means "in my opinion."

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

I can tell you why I won't shop here anymore @lulu1 ... I do not watch QVC and the only reason I shop here are the recommendations from the posters here. I will have no interest in perusing the website once the forums are gone.

I feel a lot like how I felt when Lord and Taylor closed. Sadly, my shopping habits and how I dress were not current enough to keep my beloved store in business. Change is inevitable. I will look back fondly on the encounters I had here. I, don't believe this forum can be duplicated anywhere but I remain hopeful that I will be proved wrong.🌸💐

gidgetgh · ‎03-09-2010

Of course it's not the end of the world. But, it is yet another unwanted change in a world that is in a weird state (couldn't think of anything better to say) right now. People are uncertain and on edge and crave familiarity.

Change can be good, change can be bad and change can just be change.

Just speaking for me, I could do with a little less change for awhile, LOL. My world, along with millions and millions of others, has been turned upside down. I find, that when everything is swirling around me, and I am unsettled and uncertain, I seek out the familiar, the routine. Things that may not be earth shattering, but make sense in my world and so you grab on to that.

Your favorite groceries being in stock at your grocery store. Not having to look everywhere for toilet paper. Not having Face Time holidays with relatives. Turning on your favorite tv show at 9:00 PM and it's on and you can watch. Browsing Facebook if you'd like. Read and post on your message board, etc.

The routine and the mundane bring me great comfort in uncertain times. That, by gosh, there ARE things that remain constant and don't change. It's comforting. In the end, it is just a message board and the world won't end when it closes. But some of us are living much "smaller" lives than we used to and I just do a heavy sigh when another unexpected, unwanted change comes along.

Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?

LibbyLib · ‎01-25-2012

@lulu1 wrote:
If I have offended anyone, I am truly sorry. That was not my intention.

I can certainly empathize with anyone confined to his/her home, feeling alone and/or infirmed.

Trust me, our family knows all too well how the pandemic can change lives forever. I, personally know how being retired and ill can make your world feel small.

If I could I'd delete this thread, but it is too late for that.

@lulu1 It's really gracious of you to rethink what you wrote after hearing the opinions of others. Far too few people who should do that are capable of it. We form opinions without the contribution of others, and you were flexible enough to validate the opinions of others like a collaboration. You are correct, however - all change isn't bad. You proved it by flexing in your thought process. That's actually an executive function in our brains. Many people haven't developed that ability, however, and it reflects in the panic and emotion you are seeing. Change and evolution is essential for survival. We see it in nature - the seasons, for example. We must accept change, adapt and survive. Thank you for your insight and compassion. Don't wish you could undo this - it's a valued experience.

Q is a for-profit business, and managing a forum, no matter how important to some, isn't worth a single staff member (moderators) when they aren't able to ship on time or manage timely customer service responses due to lack of staffing. It's a smart business decision, even if it isn't popular right now.

There are other forums, and time has been given to find other alternatives to stay in touch with friends discovered here. Other forums won't be as restrictive for those that enjoy pushing politics and religion, griping or ganging up on people. You'll be able to feast freely on gossip about hosts and how awful you think Q is. I'm not a regular here, I visit occasionally when there aren't reviews on a product I'm interested in, to see what people think. I often get sidetracked and find a shocking number of rude posts about hosts and conspiracy theories. I see negative people feeding on the fears of others, and they encourage each other, building up baseless, dangerous theories. So, I'm obviously not sorry to see the forum go.

So, while I am100% in agreement that many depend on forums to stay connected to people, I don't agree that THIS forum is the end all for that purpose. The first time one posted a comment or reply in this forum it was scary and unfamiliar too. All forums online work in essentially the same way, and you will all be pros at it in no time at all. Please don't substitute opinions on forums for doing your own research on news topics and medical information, no matter where you go.

For those who found the original post offensive, please accept the sincere apology. And if you feel alone or depressed, please contact your family doctor. They can refer you to someone with far more knowledge and experience that can really lift you up with the tools you need to survive these difficult times. No forum is able to do that, even if you believe it does in the short term. I know that when things are hard you may feel like you can't handle one more thing, but you can, given the proper support you need.

I wish all of you the very best. This will be my last post here. Remember that hurt people hurt people, so be kind to others and yourselves. ❤

mom2four0418 · ‎04-23-2010

@lulu1 wrote:
If I have offended anyone, I am truly sorry. That was not my intention.

I can certainly empathize with anyone confined to his/her home, feeling alone and/or infirmed.

Trust me, our family knows all too well how the pandemic can change lives forever. I, personally know how being retired and ill can make your world feel small.

If I could I'd delete this thread, but it is too late for that.

You can ask the moderators to close the thread, but I hope that you won't.

“The soul is healed by being with children.”
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky

BlueFinch · ‎08-31-2019

@lulu1 Yes, they gave us a month's warning, but if they wanted to extend goodwill our way, they would have waited until after the NY. They picked a terrible time to ditch the forums.

I can't object to their decision. It's their circus. I just object to the time they chose to wield the hammer.

But, no, it's not the end of the world. Often alternatives threatening our comfort zone prove to be just as good, or better, given the chance. I applaud those who have stepped up to the challenge to keep us going.

Nothing is constant, or permanent anymore, so we might as well get used to it.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

What I find sad is the lack of empathy, the thinly veiled shame, toward those who are distressed by the loss of a forum that was important to them. What's important to me, what I value, may mean nothing to you, just as what you value may mean nothing to me.

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

Agreed, @occasionalrain. Some of these posts are very condescending🙁

BlueFinch · ‎08-31-2019

@occasionalrain @tansy I agree some comments can sound harsh, not fully understanding how important the forum has been for many. I don't think it's really intended to do so. I think it's more of a push, that we have to get a grip.

I came here grieving the loss of my husband, during times feeling isolated, to find so many who were warm and welcoming. I can never forget that and all the other times I saw people reaching out to others. There are good people here, that far outweigh the trouble makers. I think everyone who often visited here will miss this.

That said, I think it's very important to try to remain positive, while investigating other sites to meet up. I hate to think some may be so disappointed that they won't have the motivation to search alternatives offered and will be left behind.

Many of us are signing up elsewhere. We CAN keep this party going.