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[BoopOMatic]

 I'd like opinions on this.

 I just saw a clip from a TV show that featured a lady in her late '50s who was having what amounts to a fantasy romance with a young guy in his '20s who lives on a different continent.

 She wants to marry him, even though they are totally unsuitable for each other.

 Even after he publicly disparaged her, insulted her, and made it plain that he wasn't in love with her, she is insisting on flying to his country and proposing to him.

 The clip was her 2 friends listening to her plans and their shocked reactions. She was obviously in a dream world, had already been taken advantage of, and was asking for more of the same from this man.

 Question:  faced with this situation, should her friends be honest and tell her she's making a huge mistake, or should they be a "friend" and support whatever she wants to do - even if it causes emotional and/or financial harm to her?

[RedTop]

I'm the friend that looks you in the eye and tells you what I think, and yes, in this situation I would loudly tell my friend she is making the biggest mistake of her life.   

[Kachina624]

This type of situation is beyond the capabilities of friends.  A member of the woman's family should be contacted, the situation explained, so arrangements can be made for psychiatric help.  She is obviously highly delusional.

[ninjawife]

A true friend will tell you the truth.

[Q4u]

The grown-up son of this woman has told her many times that this isn't what she should do.  Yes, as a friend I would tell her that IMO this is a mistake.  Yes, she needs to talk to a professional about this and have her realize that she is not the only 50+ female that goes on this kind of bender when she realizes she's not young anymore.  I also realize that a young man (30's) can fall in love with a 50+ woman and have a successful life, BUT it certainly isn't the norm.  I've watched this guy before on this show with another 50+ woman, and married her and divorced her..  But my opinion is that he is definitely after a green card so he can become the world-famous rapper he thinks he is.....  JMHO     

[RetRN]

I would mind my own business, it is her life and she will do what she wants. These people do not listen to others anyhow as they believe they know best.

[Mombo1]

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@RedTop wrote:

I'm the friend that looks you in the eye and tells you what I think, and yes, in this situation I would loudly tell my friend she is making the biggest mistake of her life.   

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@RedTop    And RUN.  

[kaydee50]

I would have to give my honest opinion and tell her she's nuts to want to marry a guy who doesn't want to marry her. 

I'm not the type who would support someone who is making what appears to be a disastrous decision.

[Kachina624]

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@RetRN wrote:

I would mind my own business, it is her life and she will do what she wants. These people do not listen to others anyhow as they believe they know best.

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@RetRN  Is right, she is so determined, she isn't going to listen to reason....in one ear and out the other.  She's going to crash and burn.  Women who think they're in love can lose sense of reality and be so stupid.

[SharkE]

be better to hire a local male escort.