The Lack Of Thank You - Page 2

Pink123 · ‎07-10-2019

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Skyegirl21 · ‎03-20-2010

@katie1859 wrote:
You all have been very helpful. It seems ( to me that no one really matters except for their iPhones and Amazon. I don't like to operate in being offended but I'm going to start practicing no.
I recently sent my one daughter flowers for the birth of my granddaughter. I live 100 miles away, thought that would be pretty for her. Not a word. No call no text nothing.
My second daughter getting married. She's asked for a lot of help and I have, I made her bouquet. I had it delivered so she can see it. Not a word either. Today, I asked and she barked back that she's been busy. I didn't inquire for approval, it was for her opinion SMH.

Glad it all helped. Gotta say, your daughter, the new Mom, I would let that one go. My 1st baby, cried 24/7, it was a miserable time for many months- The others, no excuse!

LuvSoCal · ‎07-18-2010

@katie1859 wrote:
You all have been very helpful. It seems ( to me that no one really matters except for their iPhones and Amazon. I don't like to operate in being offended but I'm going to start practicing no.
I recently sent my one daughter flowers for the birth of my granddaughter. I live 100 miles away, thought that would be pretty for her. Not a word. No call no text nothing.
My second daughter getting married. She's asked for a lot of help and I have, I made her bouquet. I had it delivered so she can see it. Not a word either. Today, I asked and she barked back that she's been busy. I didn't inquire for approval, it was for her opinion SMH.

@katie1859 I am so sorry that your thoughtfulness was met with such indifference. Your daughters are more fortunate than they currently realize. Unfortunately, they will miss your efforts when it's too late to be able to thank you.

My mom told me that I always showed my gratitude even from a very young age. She said I would jump up and

down while thanking whomever lol. I'm still that way (well, except for the jumping up and down part). My mom was very much like you...loved doing things for her daughters that she thought would bring us pleasure. As I said, yours will miss that one day.

Tique · ‎08-03-2013

One of my girlfriends just celebrated her 15th wedding anniversary and at her party she thanked me for something I did about three months after her ceremony. I had given her what I considered to be a very generous monetary gift. She was in her 40's when she married and already had everything some newlyweds need. I kept looking for a Thank You card and finally asked a mutual friend if she had gotten one. When she told me she hadn't I called the bride and asked her why she hadn't sent out "thank you's". Her reply was "The Etiquette Book states you have up to a year after a wedding to officially thank people." I very nicely told her that if it took someone a year to acknowledge my gift, he/she shouldn't bother because I could guarantee that would be the last gift ever received from me. Within a week I got a Thank you card. So did my other girlfriend who called to ask "What did you do?" My friends know me well.

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lynnie61 · ‎04-28-2010

We always were taught at a very young age, that thank yous were required. When we were young, the thank yous were written to aunts, grandparents, at least in the couple days that followed your birthday or Christmas. My grandparents lived halfway across the US, but always thanked them on the phone, and sent a note, too.

I'm happy that my niece and nephews at least sent texts when we gifted them. It's a different world, but at least they did it.

One wedding I went to a few years ago, the thank you was a scrolled, printed letter given when they served the cake. Odd, but thanked people for their gift and time spent with them on their special day.

River Song · ‎03-15-2010

A couple of years ago, I mailed a wedding gift to my nephew's son that was getting married. This was during the tail end of the pandemic and I wasn't getting on a plane to attend a wedding out of state.

I know the package was delivered but I heard crickets from the bride and groom. They never did acknowledge the gift although another relative said they received it and were happy with it.

The bride and groom are in their early thirties and were not raised by wolves. They know better.

However, that is the last gift they will receive from their Auntie River Song and that includes any bequests in my will!

I guess some people have to learn lessons the hard way.

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ScrapHappy · ‎03-28-2010

I agree. I've sent many baby gifts, birthday, and wedding gifts with no thank you's given (verbal or written). I think acknowledging a gift/gesture is very important and raised my daughter that way. For Christmas, birthday....whatever, she sends a hand written thank you card. For a closer relative, like my sister, a phone call. I'm very bi on thank you's and this is a must.

Biftu · ‎02-05-2011

I think part of it is that (especially young people) are given things all the time throughout the year. They want it, they get it. Gifts are just like any other day getting a gift. When I was young we got gifts for birthdays, Christmas and back to school. I agree, it is disheartening when you take the time to pick that "perfect gift" and nothing.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

@katie1859 wrote:
I readily admit that I'm of a generation that learned the meaningfulness of thank you.
I don't give or help to get a card but more and more I'm asked to help, or give and I do. Less and less is there acknowledgement. Not a peep.
It no longer seems that people find it respectful upon receiving so say, yes, I got it, thank you or hey, I appreciate the work.
Sign of the times I'm concluding.

I also grew up at a time thank you notes and words of appreciation.

People should do good things because it's the right thing to do, not for thanks or acknowledgement.

I don't care if someone doesn't thank or recognize me for a good deed. I do it out of the goodness of my heart, not for attention.