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11-27-2024 07:59 AM
@Jordan2 wrote:
@lynnie61 wrote:@Jordan2. I'm so sorry you are having trouble with the holiday season. I am glad you are taking steps to still have a good meal, some dessert, and some binge watching. I would so much know I would have you to dinner. My small family is getting smaller. My dads health is starting to fail. My sister and I have (she has a husband and I have a SO, but we still feel alone) My SO lost his dad last year too.
We never had children, and a few good friends of mine don't have children either. As we grow older, it does get scary. For many years, my dad invited others who were alone, or didn't have children or family near by, to his home on Christmas Eve. It made for some great Christmas Eve's with my mom being gone for so long. I miss her alot and it's 24 years. I think it's never the same without our moms.
Try to have a good day. I have friends near Ashville that 2 months later they still have no water service. The media is gone, and people forget. I will keep everyone struggling in my prayers.
Has your sister invited you to her sister in laws? Or maybe hasn't. Or maybe you would feel uncomfortable there. I will be thinking of you Thursday and through out the holiday season. Take care my friend.
@lynnie61 @My sister's sister-in-law and husband don't like me much, I'm not fond of them either. When my mother was alive she would get invited and I would too almost as an obligation, I'm not invited anymore.
@Jordan2 That is sad, however, I would much rather be alone, doing my own thing, than if they invited me, and they thought I was just an obligation. You are better off. Maybe watch the parade and see some good bands and some cute floats. I was always invited to my sisters in laws when I was single and they were still hosting. I went a few times and it was nice. One thing I was happy about, was the Thanksgiving before my mom passed, we went to her parents and it was awesome. (My grandparents far away in another state).
11-27-2024 08:54 AM
Yes the holidays are always trying---for many and sad for many too. If I knew of someone that was alone for these days, I would put out an invite to come join DD and I for a meal and company.
However-----for me at age 70 -----my holidays beginning with the 2021 ones, have been pretty good--no--great!!! Not that I have tons of exciting goings on, but because I am not around the horrible ex spouse anymore---he was/is a real downer and I dreaded all the stupid nonsense he seemed to spread----not only on the holidays but 24/7 in general, as did our 2 kids--adults now--truly a miserable human being and good riddence---now I am finding my joy again-----despite all that is going on in the world---wishing everyone the best!!!
11-27-2024 01:43 PM
@Jordan2 Yes, very hard for some of us - sorry its making you sad.
Im from a very dysfunctional family, miss my parents & the holiday celebrations we had even though most of them looking back were not very happy at all. I recently attended a class Befriending Grief & Loss which has me looking at things differently, writing things down and telling myself I was okay/I am okay.
11-27-2024 07:13 PM
11-27-2024 09:10 PM - edited 11-30-2024 10:17 PM
@Jordan2 i have only one direct family member left will be spending tomorrow away because of my dog sitting business with three dogs i met monday my mother died in 2016 and i have only my brother for the holidays with my business a lot of it is over the holidays when my clients travel do the best you can and look forward regardless of the days
mrshckynut
11-28-2024 06:54 AM
@Jordan2 !
I hope you have some good "binge watching" today! I'm watching Sue Thomas FBI. I especially love Levi the golden retriever!
11-30-2024 01:06 PM
You ( and I) are proof that SOMETIMES you can be more alone when you're surrounded by others than if you really are physically alone!!!
I'm alone by choice. I refuse to travel after about Nov 1. I live near Lake Eire and if you have the weahter or news on today....you can see why!!! Unpredictable snow storms ( yes we know they will come...but the severity is the question....I live a bit inland downwind of Erie so we got about 3" or less all total....but LOTS of cold wind...
I would MUCH rather spend the day alone, in the warm house, than on the side of I79 in a snow drift, or backed up traffii,c or sleeping on the floor of the airport!!!
And think of this!!! First real snow event of this season...AND it's a Holiday when people are stressed to the max(.... think of car trips to the family holidays...some of my WORST memories from geting ready to having to be away from home when all you want is to rest those days off work.... to worrying about the house, the pets the what ifs....then a LOT of people seem to forget how to drive in snow and don't slow down.
Nope .... No place for me!!!
My remaining family ( one sister) lives in upstate NY where they get winters like ours.....so we had our "thanksgiving" in October this year...it was 80 dgrees and we had shorts on!!!
I don't travel from Nov to April ( or make plans to) and I would NEveR expect someone else to expose themselves to dangerous condidions...
Just anohter day on the calendar to me.
After DECADES of doing the same thing because it's a date on the calendar , I'm good with it!!!
I made a small turkey. It was good...but I wished I stayed with my original plan and bought a nice thick ribeye steak instead!!!!
11-30-2024 06:46 PM
I love the Holidays and look forward to them every year. Yes, they are very different than when Mom and Dad were alive but now we're making memories for our son and they are great.
11-30-2024 09:47 PM
I like normal everyday life best.
12-01-2024 12:52 AM
@Jordan2 , I read an article this evening about this same issue. A lady lost her husband unexpectedly several years ago, and they had two teen children.
She said they felt like that first holiday season after his death that all the holiday lights, cheer, and hohoho were slapping them in the face.
They chose to go to the beach, and she said even though years have passed, they have never celebrated the holidays since his passing. They do something completely different each year. One of the kids has married, but they don't celebrate holidays ever.
I understand your sadness, and hope you find a new and different thing to do during this time of year.
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