Re: The Holidays

dimin · ‎03-11-2010

i wish I could skip all holidays. I don't like them, i dread them.

Zhills · ‎11-15-2011

I just try to pretend it is July...just celebrating on a different day! It helps!

monicakm · ‎03-16-2010

Well, plans have changed a bit for me. My daughter and family were supposed to be out of town for T-day. They are staying home and we're ALL going to dad's assisted living facility and having dinner in his room

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@monicakm wrote:
Thank you @Sooner
As a Christian, like my parents and brother, I am 110% positive that my mother and brother are in a far better place and in perfect health. This knowledge gets me thru life (on this earth) without them. I have times when I feel I NEED my mom and feel sadder that she will never be here again but it's short lived and I think about her beautiful, perfect self that will live, pain-free, forever. I can't be sad about that. Mom and I could talk about things we didn't talk to anyone else about. I miss that. I miss her telling me, "this too shall pass". I miss making her laugh. BUT, I look forward to the time I'm with her again. I look forward to seeing my parents together again. They were so in love!

@monicakm You said what I feel in my heart. Mom died this year after a 10 year stay in a nursing home, and I felt blessed that she had a peaceful passing, not long bedridden and she was the last of her family.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Holidays bring to mind those who are no longer among us. We're remindered of how holidays once were and never will be again.

Roscoe the Rascal · ‎04-19-2016

This will be my first Thanksgiving and Christmas without my husband and I have been sad more off and on already. My daughter and family and I will be together but hard for us all. Just have to push through and do the best we can. To top it all off his birthday was the 30th of November.

One day at a time.

Roscoe the Rascal · ‎04-19-2016

@Jordan2 wrote:
So, Thursday is Thanksgiving which starts the holiday season with Christmas, Chanukah, New Year's Eve, and New Years Day to follow. For many of us ( myself included) this is a lonely and sad time. People at work mean well and ask what your plans are for Thanksgiving, I usually make something up. Since my mother died the holidays haven't been the same, I just feel like I'm just trying to make it to the new year. For those that will be celebrating Thanksgiving I hope you enjoy being with family and friends. I'll be around for every holiday to check in.

I am sorry for your loss and one day at a time is all we can do. Holidays are always tough. I cried like a baby on Veterans Day.

lynnie61 · ‎04-28-2010

@Roscoe the Rascal I'm so sorry. I have not lost a spouse, sibling or child. A year of "firsts" are especially hard. The year my mom passed my dad had photo calendars made for us kids. We all bawled on Christmas Eve. It was not something we expected our dad to do (not like him at all). It's a treasured memory. It's ok to cry. Thinking of you. My time has changed from sadness to smiles, but I have to say it took a LONG time for me. My mom was 59 when she passed.

We rescue cats · ‎01-25-2023

@Jordan2 We are in similar situations, I was an only child until my mom re-married when I was 16, I'm not close to my step-siblings. My husband has a sister that lives in Phoenix (we're in PA) so we do little on holidays. At one time we took in a single mom and children from the Help Center on the holidays. . . but that changed a few years ago when the practice was discontinued. We're having renovation work done on the camper so we will start the drive to Alabama early tomorrow. Just us and the 12 cats! LOL! So the family will be together!

Lynn-Critter Lover!
(especially cats!)

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@lynnie61 wrote:
@Jordan2. I'm so sorry you are having trouble with the holiday season. I am glad you are taking steps to still have a good meal, some dessert, and some binge watching. I would so much know I would have you to dinner. My small family is getting smaller. My dads health is starting to fail. My sister and I have (she has a husband and I have a SO, but we still feel alone) My SO lost his dad last year too.

We never had children, and a few good friends of mine don't have children either. As we grow older, it does get scary. For many years, my dad invited others who were alone, or didn't have children or family near by, to his home on Christmas Eve. It made for some great Christmas Eve's with my mom being gone for so long. I miss her alot and it's 24 years. I think it's never the same without our moms.

Try to have a good day. I have friends near Ashville that 2 months later they still have no water service. The media is gone, and people forget. I will keep everyone struggling in my prayers.

Has your sister invited you to her sister in laws? Or maybe hasn't. Or maybe you would feel uncomfortable there. I will be thinking of you Thursday and through out the holiday season. Take care my friend.

@lynnie61 @My sister's sister-in-law and husband don't like me much, I'm not fond of them either. When my mother was alive she would get invited and I would too almost as an obligation, I'm not invited anymore.