The Elderly - Page 4

ShowMe · ‎09-06-2010

@sweetee2 wrote:
I could write a whole page about what I went through taking care of my dad with MS, but he's been gone for almost 3 years and I'm trying to move on.
Like you said there were 6 of us and then dad started needing help, no one was around.
The one thing that was most infuriating was the lack of reliable home health care. I went through 3 home health companies. There is absolutely NO government regulations with these people. They virtual can do anything they want. They hier anybody they can, whether they have any experience or not. I was told that the problem was that "I was always there." Are you kidding me, of course I'm going to be there.
OK, I done.
When ever I see elderly I always offer my help grocery store, post office, any where. They are always so appreciative.

I fully understand how you feel.....

My sister has a very dear friend down in San Antonio that has MS.....and it is hard for him to get around most of the time. They have had their home prepared for when he will be home bound..... Lots of changes made.

As far as help is concerned. I have had some problems with the Visiting Angels.....they are expensive and private pay...... Finally, have one that understands how I want my laundry done. My sister and I have discussed this many times.....she too wonders where they get their help from. As far as the young ladies that clean my apartment go, they are great......

ShowMe · ‎09-06-2010

@AKgirl2 wrote:

@ShowMe wrote:
@AKgirl2......thanks for your sweet post. Yes, I am very blessed..... And hope I can continue to be as independent as I am.

Believe me, it has been tough.....have had many up and down days..... But more up than down. And hope that can continue too.....

Had a treatment yesterday morning.....and usually the following 4 days are pretty tough. Am usually pretty tired...... Well this morning I had to get up earlier than usual to get my car in to be taken care of.....license renewal checkup....and several other things that needed to be done to it. It passed and got 4 new tires, and a few other things done that need to be done. They brought me home so I could be where I am comfortable, and then came back to get me when my car was ready. Once I got back home, I was exhausted and had to take a nap. But am always happy when I can get something accomplished. Do not have any plans for the rest of the week, so I will have plenty time to recover from my treatment.
@ShowMe ~ goodness you did a lot, especially after a treatment! I can't imagine how hard that must be and don't know if I would have that fortitude. How wonderful of the car repair shop to bring you home and pick you up too! Rest easy and feel better🌹

Thanks.....

Right now my tummy is telling me I am hungry.

Thank goodness for microwaves.....

Will be going to bed early tonight.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@Catty2 wrote:
I know what you mean. My mother has passed away but when she was still with us, and in the early stages of Alzheimers, somehow she subscribed to a bunch of magazines with her Visa card. And one time when I went over to see her I noticed a new pan in her kitchen and asked where she got it. She said a salesman came by and gave it to her. The fact that she let a stranger into her house really upset me. Who knows what could have happened.

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@Catty2

Was she living by herself then?

Mistreatedbycs · ‎03-10-2010

To the person who said my post "was insulting"

There is not a mean bone in my body, I was only stating that I wish I could help everyone who needs it.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

I just want to say, if you are looking for someone to care for a loved one, no matter how wonderful this caregiver seems to be, please get a background check and actually call and speak with references. Also, once this person gets hired, don't just leave your loved one to the mercy of who you have deemed acceptable. Go visit unannounced if you can, while the caregiver is there. You really can't trust people these days.

MacDUFF · ‎05-29-2015

Hi @Mistreatedbycs

I think it's sweet and kind that you have a heart for the elderly and that you wish you could help them. Perhaps you can...check with a few places like your nearest church, synagogue, or senior center to see if there are any volunteer opportunities. I imagine a caregiver would love a kind-hearted person such as yourself to spot them for a couple of hours a week so they can get out.

~~~ I call dibs on the popcorn concession!! ~~~

LyndaGee · ‎03-11-2010

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
Yes, it's contemptable how villians prey on the elderly.
We had a care taker steal and burglarize my late in-laws. The accomplice went to jail, was released, violated parole and went back to jail for 6 years. The criminal care taker got off scot free because she gave up the accomplice and his where abouts to the police who had been looking for him for several years. She still got away with it all. She will do it again and be smarter about it to not get caught.

Terrible. Happened to my grandfather - After my grandmother died, he had a caretaker visit a few times a week. My aunt, who lived across the street, would see her leaving the house with shopping bags. Never occurred to her the caretaker was stealing, because she trusted the woman.

september · ‎03-09-2010

@Mistreatedbycs wrote:
To the person who said my post "was insulting"

There is not a mean bone in my body, I was only stating that I wish I could help everyone who needs it.

@Mistreatedbycs I know you had good intentions in mind when you started this thread. Almost everyone realizes that. There will always be at least one or two who are thin skinned and insult the OP.

DiAnne · ‎09-22-2010

My Mother lived with me the last 20-years of her life. It never occurred to me not to help my Mother when she needed it and I have never regretted doing it although it was not always easy.

Elvita · ‎09-20-2015

I think it is a shame we keep our elderly alive beyond their prime and ship them off to facilities where they walk around like zombies, only to have them that bleed them dry out of their life's savings.