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[Jordan2]

Well, it's the time of year again which I find difficult to get through, being alone for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve. My mother will be gone three years in January, I still miss her terribly and still feel her loss. I have a sister who lives 5 minutes away from me, I last saw her in September. She has single grown children that I never see or hear from. If you are alone for the holidays as I am, just know I'll be thinking of you and I'll check in. 

[deepwaterdotter]

Have you reached out to your sister requesting more frequent visits?

[Goodie2shoes]

 order you a nice dinner, find a good movie to watch and enjoy the day. Shop online or find something you enjoy doing.  I know the feeling of losing a mother so my heart goes out to you but I'm sure she's enjoying her time with the angels. God Bless   

[Snowpuppy]

So I will ask this of you and others who share this experience, what would your departed love ones ask of you?

Would they ask you to be filled with sorrow and in front of your tv all day? Or would they ask you to find some happiness? Cook a decent meal for yourself?

Volunteer at a soup kitchen, take a wreath or flowers to the cemetary. Take a hot meal to someone who can't get out.

Drop off canned goods at a food pantry, pet food at a shelter. Drop change in a red kettle in memory of someone.

Pay it forward in a drive thru and buy the car behind you a meal. 

I do and have done all of this and more in memory of someone I love. 🥰

[Nancy Drew]

You have to build a social life all year to have people in your life at holidays. It can be hard but getting out there is worth it. Volunteering, church, walking the neighborhood, joining your political party local, inviting other lonely people over. A year from now can be a different story.

[Jordan2]

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@deepwaterdotter wrote:

Have you reached out to your sister requesting more frequent visits?

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@deepwaterdotter we have never been close. I think she is fine with the status quo. I think my mother knowing I would be alone when she passed ( I took care of her) asked her to check in on me. I don't want her to feel obligated because she made a promise to my mother. 

[Chopsmom]

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@Goodie2shoes wrote:

 order you a nice dinner, find a good movie to watch and enjoy the day. Shop online or find something you enjoy doing.  I know the feeling of losing a mother so my heart goes out to you but I'm sure she's enjoying her time with the angels. God Bless   

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Beautiful post!

[JFD12]

@Jordan2 If my mom and Dad were here, they would make sure that you were not alone! They would have gladly taken you in, amongst the whole rowdy crew that they already had! (yes, that's us! Lol) Come to MA... you will gladly be welcomed here with me and my huge, crazy family! ❤️

And I am very, very sorry on the loss of your sweet mom! ❤️

[Foxxee]

I'm not alone, but I do see this differently than others.

These holidays are not the same without family. Being with friends or neighbors is not the same and can be even more lonely than spending the day at home alone. 

Do you have a dog or cat to keep you company?  They can make a world of difference.  Of course, they are family, so make a dinner for yourself, treat them with what they can eat that you made. 

This is a lonely time and some people are who do have family.  Remembering parents who have died is tough.  If ever I'm in your position, I'm going to invite them.  Turn on the TV to their favorite programs and pretend...hope they came.  

[AngelPuppy1]

@Jordan2 

Holidays are not the easiest thing to get through.  I can certainly understand your feelings.  There is basically just DH and I and I am grateful for him, or I'd be totally on my own.  I lost my mother a few years ago and she was truly the glue that held us all together.  After her passing, everything just kind of went to pieces.  We didn't have a big family to begin with and there were quite often issues and hard feelings between family members, but my mother managed somehow to keep us all going. I won't go into personal details but just will say that the Christmas times we used to know and enjoy as a family are all gone now.  I do wish you the best and hope that you can find some things over the holiday season to bring you some happiness.