Community Chat

[SeaMaiden]

 JUST MY TAKE ON THIS:

If you invite a bunch of strangers to a free meal.....you had better be prepared to offer many different foods....or do not invite them.

If you are just offering the typical Thankgiving ****** food that is heart clogging and full of empty carbs and sugar....then put that menu  in the invitation.  Do not blame the guests for not wanting food that is unhealthy and that they would not eat. 

[ROMARY]

Most of the vegetarians I know usually bring a side dish or two (or more) for them and others to enjoy.   There's almost always something on the menu for each person to enjoy at Thanksgiving events. (I had a co-worker who would only eat desserts, (more or less).  I happen to love ham, (dark turkey, too), and I'm always thrilled when ham is on the table.  I could seriously live on ham (more or less). 

[QueenDanceALot]

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@TenderMercies wrote:

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

@qualitygal Your post reminded me of the saying we all grew up with from our Mom's "if you cannot say anything nice then say nothing at all" 

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This thread actually reminds me of those mothers who tell their kids, "you'll eat what I cook or you can do without".

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

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I don't see anyone here supporting that kind of attitude.  I see people acknowledging the fact that if a complete stranger is invited to share a holiday dinner in a private home with a family, it is inappropriate for that stranger to request a specific dish be made for them.  

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I see both.

And I stated that I would never request anyone make a specific dish for me.

[ROMARY]

p.s. (Again, as usual):  I seriously doubt that one person can completely and successfully accomodate each and every guest (at a large gathering), unless it's a very small gathering (say, three or four people). It would take a specialty resturant crew to make many special dishes for more than a few people.   I'm thinking that close family members will usually bring their own favorite food-restricted items; strange guests might not, although it would be a good idea.  I do think that it would be appropriate to inform non-close friends/family ahead of time: What's on the menu, etc., and feel free to bring their own special requirements for themselves, or to share with others.   Well, hoping that everyone will enjoy your Thanksgivings and/or special events. 

[faeriemoon]

I will never understand people who feel entitled to favors.  If the options don't work for you, don't attend, or work around them.  There will be SOMETHING on the menu you can eat.  If not, come by, enjoy the company, then eat when you get home.  I would NEVER ask anyone to go out of their way for me.

[goldensrbest]

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@TenderMercies wrote:

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

@qualitygal Your post reminded me of the saying we all grew up with from our Mom's "if you cannot say anything nice then say nothing at all" 

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This thread actually reminds me of those mothers who tell their kids, "you'll eat what I cook or you can do without".

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

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I don't see anyone here supporting that kind of attitude.  I see people acknowledging the fact that if a complete stranger is invited to share a holiday dinner in a private home with a family, it is inappropriate for that stranger to request a specific dish be made for them.  

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I see both.

And I stated that I would never request anyone make a specific dish for me.

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I think it is just plain rude to ask people to fix something special just for you ,they invited you into their home,be gracious, if they ask you if you have a special diet ,then that opens the door.

[gidgetgh]

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@nana59 wrote:

Just one more reason I'd like to fast forward to January......

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@nana59- I agree. The holidays, just about all of them, have too much “hoopla” for me any more.  My husband and I are going out of town for Thanksgiving, a first for us. Thanksgiving lunch will be at the buffet in the casino in Biloxi. And when we drive home the next day, the holiday will be over. I strive to keep it simple now. 

[faeriemoon]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

If your invited to eat at a persons home ,you eat what they serve.

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Thank you!!

[faeriemoon]

If you are hosting a family dinner and you know someone has an issue with something, that is one thing.  If you are having a buffet for a bunch of co-workers, they either eat what you serve, or don't eat, or don't come come.  (And leave your little snippy entitled attitude at home.) 

[Financialgrl]

I've said it elsewhere - there's probably no bigger picky eater than me and never, ever, ever do I expect someone to cater to that.  That's on me. However, if it's a Thanksgiving dinner - it's probably a sure thing there will be the normal "standard fare".  Figure it's that , make a decision and move on from there!