Re: Thanksgiving Rant

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
I work for an organization that employs a lot of people who come to my city to do their job for short periods of time, then move on to other cities or return home. I currently have a dozen employees who are in town through the beginning of December. A long time member of my board of directors has invited these employees to her home for Thanksgiving dinner. I sent an email out to these employees to let them know about the invitation and to RSVP, so I can do a head count. At least 3 of these people responded saying things like, "I'm gluten free, so I'll need options" and "I'd like to request either a fish or vegetarian meal." Is it wrong that I'm angry about this? I can understand these requests if this were a working dinner on any normal day, but a dinner hosted by a board member on Thanksgiving? I don't want to be rude to them, but I feel like saying "It's Thanksgiving dinner, folks. You get turkey and the usual fixins. Accept it as it is, or make other plans." Can you believe the nerve of some people?
Does the board member who is extending the invite know you have a problem with the responses you are getting? Maybe she is OK with knowing about the requests.

If you have a serious food allergy like Celiac or you are a vegan or pescatarian then the "usual thanksgiving" choices are not the same as you seem to think they are.
@AngusandBuddhasMom If you are a pescatarian or vegetarian, then you can eat stuffing, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. If you are gluten free, you can eat turkey, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. I am not asking a board member to make special meals for these people when there will already be plenty of options.
If people have certain dietary restrictions then maybe they were asking because they don't want to accept and then find out they can't eat certain things.

My DD has celiac I know she is used to doing with out and not asking. People seem confused as to what is and isn't allowed. Some people are more bold then others I see no reason to take offense.

For religious reasons we don't eat pork or any meat on Fridays. I never say anything if out or at a company function. I just look to see what I can have and make do. No big deal. That said when people notice they make a big deal about it and seem to take a personal offense to it. I don't know how my abstaining from certain foods reflects on them but apparently it does.

@AngusandBuddhasMom It's Thanksgiving. It's the one day of the year when you absolutely know what kind of food will be on the menu. As I stated, there will be plenty of options for people who have dietary restrictions. If you have these restrictions and you understand what Thanksgiving dinner means, then you know there will be something for you to eat. It's not about their restrictions, it's about the audacity of them to expect special treatment under these specific circumstance, especially when they know they will not go hungry.

ccassaday · ‎10-21-2010

@SahmIam wrote:
"No good deed goes unpunished".

Truer words have never been spoken. One, be thankful that people are even sending an RSVP; most don't. They just show up and there ya go. *side eye*

In this situation, here is what I would do; in fact, I HAVE and DO do this:

"So glad you are going to be able to attend! SInce you have specific dietary needs, I would like you to bring a dish that you can enjoy and also share with everyone else, that way, I KNOW you'll enjoy the meal along with everyone else. " : )

Two things happen: 1) They don't show up or 2) They show up with a dish or two and it's a great success.

IMHO, if they don't show up, it's no great loss because, well, you can figure it out. I think those that pull this stunt (informing their hosts of what they will and will not eat without offering to bring something) is rude. Yep, I do. I would NEVER expect someone to cater to MY dietary needs.

Please.

This is perfect.

Mj12 · ‎03-09-2010

@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
I work for an organization that employs a lot of people who come to my city to do their job for short periods of time, then move on to other cities or return home. I currently have a dozen employees who are in town through the beginning of December. A long time member of my board of directors has invited these employees to her home for Thanksgiving dinner. I sent an email out to these employees to let them know about the invitation and to RSVP, so I can do a head count. At least 3 of these people responded saying things like, "I'm gluten free, so I'll need options" and "I'd like to request either a fish or vegetarian meal." Is it wrong that I'm angry about this? I can understand these requests if this were a working dinner on any normal day, but a dinner hosted by a board member on Thanksgiving? I don't want to be rude to them, but I feel like saying "It's Thanksgiving dinner, folks. You get turkey and the usual fixins. Accept it as it is, or make other plans." Can you believe the nerve of some people?
Does the board member who is extending the invite know you have a problem with the responses you are getting? Maybe she is OK with knowing about the requests.

If you have a serious food allergy like Celiac or you are a vegan or pescatarian then the "usual thanksgiving" choices are not the same as you seem to think they are.
@AngusandBuddhasMom If you are a pescatarian or vegetarian, then you can eat stuffing, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. If you are gluten free, you can eat turkey, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. I am not asking a board member to make special meals for these people when there will already be plenty of options.
If people have certain dietary restrictions then maybe they were asking because they don't want to accept and then find out they can't eat certain things.

My DD has celiac I know she is used to doing with out and not asking. People seem confused as to what is and isn't allowed. Some people are more bold then others I see no reason to take offense.

For religious reasons we don't eat pork or any meat on Fridays. I never say anything if out or at a company function. I just look to see what I can have and make do. No big deal. That said when people notice they make a big deal about it and seem to take a personal offense to it. I don't know how my abstaining from certain foods reflects on them but apparently it does.
@AngusandBuddhasMom It's Thanksgiving. It's the one day of the year when you absolutely know what kind of food will be on the menu. As I stated, there will be plenty of options for people who have dietary restrictions. If you have these restrictions and you understand what Thanksgiving dinner means, then you know there will be something for you to eat. It's not about their restrictions, it's about the audacity of them to expect special treatment under these specific circumstance, especially when they know they will not go hungry.

I don't think I'd call it expecting special treatment, to bring up their food allergies and sensitivities before the dinner. Some people can get very physically ill.

michigangirl723 · ‎11-02-2015

I agree that this is ridiculous...I have food allergies (I'm allergic to seafood) and guess what? I was invited to seafood restaurant two weeks ago for a friend's get together. I went, ate before hand, and then had a nice drink and a side salad at the restaurant. I would never even think to say, "we should go somewhere else" or "you can't have that bc I'm allergic". Honestly, no one even knew about my allergy until I was offered some calamari as it was an app that everyone was sharing and I explained I was unable to try it. If you are invited somewhere and have special dietary needs, either don't go or even better bring things to share that you can eat as well.

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@Mj12 wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
I work for an organization that employs a lot of people who come to my city to do their job for short periods of time, then move on to other cities or return home. I currently have a dozen employees who are in town through the beginning of December. A long time member of my board of directors has invited these employees to her home for Thanksgiving dinner. I sent an email out to these employees to let them know about the invitation and to RSVP, so I can do a head count. At least 3 of these people responded saying things like, "I'm gluten free, so I'll need options" and "I'd like to request either a fish or vegetarian meal." Is it wrong that I'm angry about this? I can understand these requests if this were a working dinner on any normal day, but a dinner hosted by a board member on Thanksgiving? I don't want to be rude to them, but I feel like saying "It's Thanksgiving dinner, folks. You get turkey and the usual fixins. Accept it as it is, or make other plans." Can you believe the nerve of some people?
Does the board member who is extending the invite know you have a problem with the responses you are getting? Maybe she is OK with knowing about the requests.

If you have a serious food allergy like Celiac or you are a vegan or pescatarian then the "usual thanksgiving" choices are not the same as you seem to think they are.
@AngusandBuddhasMom If you are a pescatarian or vegetarian, then you can eat stuffing, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. If you are gluten free, you can eat turkey, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. I am not asking a board member to make special meals for these people when there will already be plenty of options.
If people have certain dietary restrictions then maybe they were asking because they don't want to accept and then find out they can't eat certain things.

My DD has celiac I know she is used to doing with out and not asking. People seem confused as to what is and isn't allowed. Some people are more bold then others I see no reason to take offense.

For religious reasons we don't eat pork or any meat on Fridays. I never say anything if out or at a company function. I just look to see what I can have and make do. No big deal. That said when people notice they make a big deal about it and seem to take a personal offense to it. I don't know how my abstaining from certain foods reflects on them but apparently it does.
@AngusandBuddhasMom It's Thanksgiving. It's the one day of the year when you absolutely know what kind of food will be on the menu. As I stated, there will be plenty of options for people who have dietary restrictions. If you have these restrictions and you understand what Thanksgiving dinner means, then you know there will be something for you to eat. It's not about their restrictions, it's about the audacity of them to expect special treatment under these specific circumstance, especially when they know they will not go hungry.
I don't think I'd call it expecting special treatment, to bring up their food allergies and sensitivities before the dinner. Some people can get very physically ill.

No one alerted me to food allergies. They requested special meals because of their dietary choices. The woman who requested a gluten free meal does not have celiac, and the guy who requested wither fish or a vegetarian dish is not allergic to meat.

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
I work for an organization that employs a lot of people who come to my city to do their job for short periods of time, then move on to other cities or return home. I currently have a dozen employees who are in town through the beginning of December. A long time member of my board of directors has invited these employees to her home for Thanksgiving dinner. I sent an email out to these employees to let them know about the invitation and to RSVP, so I can do a head count. At least 3 of these people responded saying things like, "I'm gluten free, so I'll need options" and "I'd like to request either a fish or vegetarian meal." Is it wrong that I'm angry about this? I can understand these requests if this were a working dinner on any normal day, but a dinner hosted by a board member on Thanksgiving? I don't want to be rude to them, but I feel like saying "It's Thanksgiving dinner, folks. You get turkey and the usual fixins. Accept it as it is, or make other plans." Can you believe the nerve of some people?
Does the board member who is extending the invite know you have a problem with the responses you are getting? Maybe she is OK with knowing about the requests.

If you have a serious food allergy like Celiac or you are a vegan or pescatarian then the "usual thanksgiving" choices are not the same as you seem to think they are.
@AngusandBuddhasMom If you are a pescatarian or vegetarian, then you can eat stuffing, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. If you are gluten free, you can eat turkey, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. I am not asking a board member to make special meals for these people when there will already be plenty of options.
If people have certain dietary restrictions then maybe they were asking because they don't want to accept and then find out they can't eat certain things.

My DD has celiac I know she is used to doing with out and not asking. People seem confused as to what is and isn't allowed. Some people are more bold then others I see no reason to take offense.

For religious reasons we don't eat pork or any meat on Fridays. I never say anything if out or at a company function. I just look to see what I can have and make do. No big deal. That said when people notice they make a big deal about it and seem to take a personal offense to it. I don't know how my abstaining from certain foods reflects on them but apparently it does.
@AngusandBuddhasMom It's Thanksgiving. It's the one day of the year when you absolutely know what kind of food will be on the menu. As I stated, there will be plenty of options for people who have dietary restrictions. If you have these restrictions and you understand what Thanksgiving dinner means, then you know there will be something for you to eat. It's not about their restrictions, it's about the audacity of them to expect special treatment under these specific circumstance, especially when they know they will not go hungry.

You do realize Salmon is a traditional Thanksgiving option. Just sayin...

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

@CelticCrafter wrote:
I think I would have told them there will be lots of veggies and usually they are gluten free.

i always make sure that there are some fresh vegetables on the table AND a large salad. i also have a large veggie tray with assorted vegetables. i think the host could accomodate these requests quite easily.

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Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

I know I should not be surprised, but people are SO RUDE!!

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
I work for an organization that employs a lot of people who come to my city to do their job for short periods of time, then move on to other cities or return home. I currently have a dozen employees who are in town through the beginning of December. A long time member of my board of directors has invited these employees to her home for Thanksgiving dinner. I sent an email out to these employees to let them know about the invitation and to RSVP, so I can do a head count. At least 3 of these people responded saying things like, "I'm gluten free, so I'll need options" and "I'd like to request either a fish or vegetarian meal." Is it wrong that I'm angry about this? I can understand these requests if this were a working dinner on any normal day, but a dinner hosted by a board member on Thanksgiving? I don't want to be rude to them, but I feel like saying "It's Thanksgiving dinner, folks. You get turkey and the usual fixins. Accept it as it is, or make other plans." Can you believe the nerve of some people?
Does the board member who is extending the invite know you have a problem with the responses you are getting? Maybe she is OK with knowing about the requests.

If you have a serious food allergy like Celiac or you are a vegan or pescatarian then the "usual thanksgiving" choices are not the same as you seem to think they are.
@AngusandBuddhasMom If you are a pescatarian or vegetarian, then you can eat stuffing, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. If you are gluten free, you can eat turkey, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. I am not asking a board member to make special meals for these people when there will already be plenty of options.
If people have certain dietary restrictions then maybe they were asking because they don't want to accept and then find out they can't eat certain things.

My DD has celiac I know she is used to doing with out and not asking. People seem confused as to what is and isn't allowed. Some people are more bold then others I see no reason to take offense.

For religious reasons we don't eat pork or any meat on Fridays. I never say anything if out or at a company function. I just look to see what I can have and make do. No big deal. That said when people notice they make a big deal about it and seem to take a personal offense to it. I don't know how my abstaining from certain foods reflects on them but apparently it does.
@AngusandBuddhasMom It's Thanksgiving. It's the one day of the year when you absolutely know what kind of food will be on the menu. As I stated, there will be plenty of options for people who have dietary restrictions. If you have these restrictions and you understand what Thanksgiving dinner means, then you know there will be something for you to eat. It's not about their restrictions, it's about the audacity of them to expect special treatment under these specific circumstance, especially when they know they will not go hungry.
You do realize Salmon is a traditional Thanksgiving option. Just sayin...

Please.

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
I work for an organization that employs a lot of people who come to my city to do their job for short periods of time, then move on to other cities or return home. I currently have a dozen employees who are in town through the beginning of December. A long time member of my board of directors has invited these employees to her home for Thanksgiving dinner. I sent an email out to these employees to let them know about the invitation and to RSVP, so I can do a head count. At least 3 of these people responded saying things like, "I'm gluten free, so I'll need options" and "I'd like to request either a fish or vegetarian meal." Is it wrong that I'm angry about this? I can understand these requests if this were a working dinner on any normal day, but a dinner hosted by a board member on Thanksgiving? I don't want to be rude to them, but I feel like saying "It's Thanksgiving dinner, folks. You get turkey and the usual fixins. Accept it as it is, or make other plans." Can you believe the nerve of some people?
Does the board member who is extending the invite know you have a problem with the responses you are getting? Maybe she is OK with knowing about the requests.

If you have a serious food allergy like Celiac or you are a vegan or pescatarian then the "usual thanksgiving" choices are not the same as you seem to think they are.
@AngusandBuddhasMom If you are a pescatarian or vegetarian, then you can eat stuffing, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. If you are gluten free, you can eat turkey, mashed potatoes, salad, vegetables, etc. I am not asking a board member to make special meals for these people when there will already be plenty of options.
If people have certain dietary restrictions then maybe they were asking because they don't want to accept and then find out they can't eat certain things.

My DD has celiac I know she is used to doing with out and not asking. People seem confused as to what is and isn't allowed. Some people are more bold then others I see no reason to take offense.

For religious reasons we don't eat pork or any meat on Fridays. I never say anything if out or at a company function. I just look to see what I can have and make do. No big deal. That said when people notice they make a big deal about it and seem to take a personal offense to it. I don't know how my abstaining from certain foods reflects on them but apparently it does.
@AngusandBuddhasMom It's Thanksgiving. It's the one day of the year when you absolutely know what kind of food will be on the menu. As I stated, there will be plenty of options for people who have dietary restrictions. If you have these restrictions and you understand what Thanksgiving dinner means, then you know there will be something for you to eat. It's not about their restrictions, it's about the audacity of them to expect special treatment under these specific circumstance, especially when they know they will not go hungry.
You do realize Salmon is a traditional Thanksgiving option. Just sayin...
Please.