Thanksgiving Dinner charges? - Page 9

Highlands72 · ‎06-04-2016

If you and your husband decide to go through with this, make sure to take along some Lock 'n Lock containers so that you can bring home your share of the leftovers.

If I were in this situation, I would cancel, unless my husband had a strong objection.

I would not feel the need to make an excuse, other than to say politely that this arrangement was not what you had in mind, and that you have decided to do something else.

The date is far enough in the future that she would not have been inconvenienced by your original acceptance of the "invitation."

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@occasionalrain wrote:
No question that it is unacceptable, poor manners, not to mention a blindside. Still, you will be encountering these people at church and if you decline, the wife will tell others, her version. Better to go along with it, $50 is a bargain to avoid being a topic for gossip that may put you in a bad light. On the plus side, it could be interesting and a good story to share with us. There are precious few these days.

@occasionalrain of course I would go. She would enjoy herself and her attitude would change. If they decline, the husband would be embarrassed. Could you hear the other couple saying they declined because they are cheap lol.

nascarfan · ‎11-17-2012

I have never heard of such a ridiculous invitation. I wouldn't go and I wouldn't bother to call them either. If they called prior to Thanksgiving I would tell them I thought they were kidding and made other plans. SMH.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@Highlands72 wrote:
If you and your husband decide to go through with this, make sure to take along some Lock 'n Lock containers so that you can bring home your share of the leftovers.

If I were in this situation, I would cancel, unless my husband had a strong objection.

I would not feel the need to make an excuse, other than to say politely that this arrangement wasn't what you had in mind, and that you have decided to do "x" (whatever else you would have planned, absent this peculiar invitation).

@Highlands72, I said this before. @25.00 per person there won't be any leftovers. Nothing here.

vsm · ‎05-08-2010

@Duckncover I'm as appalled as you are. But you're not "stuck." You and your husband were invited as guests without any mention of a $25 fee. Your husband gratefully accepted what appeared to be a gracious invitation, When wife called back and set a fee, she reneged on the invitation extended by her husband, leaving you free to back out of this bait-and-switch offer. It's sad that they don't even seem to have the grace to be embarrassed. (One would have thought that after the wife found out her husband had failed to mention the fee, she'd have let it drop -- the fact that she didn't is what leaves such a bad taste.)

On the other hand, if you still want to be with them, make up your mind to put your resentment behind you...in the spirit of Thanksgiving.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

We are having a conversation by ourselves. Guess the OP is peeping.

She didn't say if other couples were invited.

I hope they go all because the husband accepted and he certainly counts.

@Duckncover might say he didn't accept, but I think he did.

Highlands72 · ‎06-04-2016

@Sage04 wrote:
@Highlands72 wrote:
If you and your husband decide to go through with this, make sure to take along some Lock 'n Lock containers so that you can bring home your share of the leftovers.

@Highlands72, I said this before. @25.00 per person there won't be any leftovers. Nothing here.

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Last year, we did a $99.95 carryout Thanksgiving dinner for my husband, myself, our three children, and one other adult family member.

We had leftovers.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@vsm wrote:
@Duckncover I'm as appalled as you are. But you're not "stuck." You and your husband were invited as guests without any mention of a $25 fee. Your husband gratefully accepted what appeared to be a gracious invitation, When wife called back and set a fee, she reneged on the invitation extended by her husband, leaving you free to back out of this bait-and-switch offer. It's sad that they don't even seem to have the grace to be embarrassed. (One would have thought that after the wife found out her husband had failed to mention the fee, she'd have let it drop -- the fact that she didn't is what leaves such a bad taste.)

On the other hand, if you still want to be with them, make up your mind to put your resentment behind you...in the spirit of Thanksgiving.

@vsm did you read my Post somewhere along the line lol.

I would not have mentioned the charge since my husband didn't. Tells you who's the boss.

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

I would cancel ASAP,period.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@RainyDayGal wrote:
I wonder how the invite was worded by her husband. I know if I asked mine to do it, he'd definitely mess it up or leave something out.

If it was something like, "Since we're both going to be without family this year would you like to come over. We're planning to order out and we can share the cost." Something like that wouldn't bother me at all.

When the wife called back to tell you the cost, you should have said, "Oh, in that case let me think about it." or cancelled on the spot. Of course you still can - tell her you'll think about it and let her know by such and such a date.

It's up to you. Since you sound offended I would suggest you just cancel since it's bothering you. Otherwise, if you enjoy their company then pay and have a good time. The choice is yours to make.

Personally, I love the holidays with just the two of us.

@RainyDayGal I might be wrong, but i don't think so lol.

The husband likes the couple don't think the wife does and that could be the reason. If someone she liked had invited them, it would have been a YES.