Thanksgiving Dinner charges? - Page 3

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@Duckncover, you know some men only give half of the message or maybe her husband was too embarrassed to tell your husband about the charge.

I would go and I'm sure you will enjoy the company especially since your husband likes the couple.

If they were doing the cooking, that would be a different story, then you could do a few of the dishes.

Would you have a say in what you and your husband would like to eat? If you were cooking it would cost you a lot more than the $50. Go and enjoy.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Back in the eighties or ninties or so, I recall someone telling me that as they left the dinner at someone's (her distant friend) home, they were asked to pay for the salmon? or maybe lobster? dinner. I do think it was salmon, though.

Anyway, I thought it was so odd at that time.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Go, enjoy the dinner.

Then tell them that 'ooops', you forgot to bring your wallets and offer to wash the dishes instead.

(lol)

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

Etoile308 · ‎01-04-2014

Thanksgiving dinner packages come in different price ranges depending on, where you order, what you order, and of course any add ons. And the quality can vary greatly. Before I have a restaurant meal for Thanksgiving, that I'm expected to pay for, I would certainly want all the details. Since they don't seem to have been forthcoming in the invitation where you are not a guest but rather a co-contributor, I would call and cancel.

If actually invited as a guest, then I would never expect to have a say about what's on the menu. If I'm paying, I want the side dishes I like, and the dessert of my choosing.

I would call immediately and simply say that you apologize but you won't be able to join them after all.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
If money is to be collected it should be stated out front, then you can make an informed decision.

@QVCkitty1 even if the lady's husband had mentioned money I do believe that @Duckncover's husband would have still accepted the invitation.

SharkE · ‎08-19-2010

We'll have people coming to the church Thanksgiving dinner that never come any other time of the yr. get a huge free meal for the whole family then complain when they pass the collection plate.

Church electricity, water, maintenance bills, labor is all free you know.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

Wow! That's a new one on me, too. If it were I, the invitation would be declined at that point.

It's not that I don't pay my way in life but that's just beyond, to me. She made the choice to purchase prepared food (can't cook?) and pay whatever it cost.

But to invite you and then say oh, BTW, you need to pay for your dinner. I could never do that. You became their customers, not their guests at that point, IMO.

Janey2 · ‎06-07-2010

There are lots of good(funny) thoughts here. I think this is one of the rudest invitations I ever heard. It does not matter that if you had the dinner in your house it would cost you. I would never ever tell someone to pay for their meal in my house. And no I would not go. If these people give these type of invitations I hate to think what else they think is ok.

mspatmac · ‎06-10-2015

@Duckncover No I have never heard of such a thing after the fact. It usually is all spelled out when the invitation is issued. I would call her back and say there was so much miscomunication with the invitation that you're feeling uncomfortable so you and your husband have decided to stay home and have a non traditional day.

No sense in being rude unless she is less than gracious to you. She may be mad at her husband anyway because he blew it and not realize she was in the wrong. Do what you're comfortable with.