Community Chat

[MsLomo]

Yes, it is fine/polite to ask someone whether he or she received your gift. (The gift could have been stolen and never received.)

I will happily accept "thank you" in person, by phone, email, text, smoke signal, or -- the best -- a handwritten note (ahhh) hand-delivered or mailed.  

I read something once that stuck with me -- maybe it was Ann Landers: "I'll give you another gift when you thank me for the last one I gave you."

[SahmIam]

In my world, they are handwritten and mailed.

If you do not the address but you will see the person (class or work), then you hand deliver them to the person.

If you don't have the address in any way, shape or form....how did you get something from that person in the first place that would need a Thank You? That said, SOMEONE must have the persons' address so....you work to find it so you can send a Thank You.

[Zhills]

It seems that today, if it can't be sent by Facebook, Email or messenger, forget it!  

People who are not on social media just get left out.  

Don't like it, but it surely happens like that in my world!

[Goldengate8361]

You should definitely ask her if she received the gifts (ask her, not her mother). If she acts embarrassed, well she should feel embarrassed. You should even say something like "I never heard anything from you about the gifts, so I was wondering if you even received it." You should totally put her on the spot. If you are her god parent, she needs to learn from you.

[Big Sister]

When I send a gift in the mail (usually a check) I expect a Thank You note.

If I don't get one and am ignored, then I stop gifting.  When the giftee or the mother asks me "did you forget it was so and so's birthday, I would say I didn't forget and explain why I didn't send one this time.  Simple!

[Karie2022]

I really don't know, but for me at least a text or email saying thanks I received your gift...not doing anything is never acceptable in my book...I attended a friends 40th surprise birthday party a few years ago, I bought her a lovely gift, there were a lot of people in attendance, I never heard a thing, have no idea if she received it...all the gifts were on a huge table...

same with a cousins wedding several years ago, no acknowledgment at all....wow...people never fail to amaze

[panda1234]

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@Mom2Dogs wrote:

@Annabellethecat66...I so agree with you.  I have a lot of saved thank you notes and drawings from my sisters kids....they are so fun to pull out and look at.

We are waiting on a thank you from our granddaughter for her birthday money....we did not call her on her birthday but her gift arrived on time, that I know, she could have called and said thanks...still waiting, and I am just about done with birthday gifts for grandkids, we rarely get a thanks nor we do get our birthdays acknowledged!

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Sad and disrespectful to you.

[ROMARY]

Just thinking:  If none of us ever ask if our gifts were delivered, then  it's possible that some stores/shippers/delivery people just won't send/ship/deliver them.  Well, it could happen, eventually.   That is, if most people don't complain about non-delivery of items/gifts.   ...........'All in all', it's a good idea to ask if the gift was received.  I've occasionally asked.  Sometimes people are so busy that they don't open their birthday cards for days and days.   Some don't even check their mailboxes for days.  It must feel good to not worry about anything, lol. 

[panda1234]

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@blackhole99 wrote:

You got burned once and you went back for more. We always send the nieces and nephews a generous gift of cash when they graduate from high school. My sisters kids always sent a hand written note thanking us for the generous gift. My husbands nieces and nephews never acknowledged the gift, so  my thinking was they didn't want or need the gift. I never gave them anything again. Kids are not stupid, you don't have to be raised by Miss Manners to know you should thank someone when they care enough to give you a gift.

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@blackhole99

Good for you cutting off the ones that don't acknowledge your gift. I am so surprised at the number of people that keep giving to people that do not thank them for the gift...WOW.

[ROMARY]

p.s.  I don't blame the (younger) grandchildren.  Mainly because it's up to our adult children to remind their children to 'Give grandma a call' or 'Write grandma a note', or 'Send grandma a thank-you drawing'.   Some/most youngsters need gentle reminders.  It builds character and trains them to be able to sit down and concentrate on a 'project': a life-long necessity, imo.