Community Chat

[LilacTree]

. . . My cyber friends, for having my back regarding my lapse In good judgment in my post this morning.  I was so wrong, yet you all gave me some slack.  I am old, but we never stop learning, and I learned some things today because you cared enough to try to explain my wrongful comments.

 I won’t name you because you know who you are, and I know WHO you are, which is much more than your forum nicknames. I am so grateful for your understanding and confidence in me even when I trip up.  You are good people and that’s what matters.  Just know that I admire all of you . . . You are the brave ones.

From my heart . . . Lilac Tree (Ford1224)

[LTT1]

@LilacTree 

I am not aware of your post, but we all have lapses in judgement at times...it’s ok💗

[blueroses47]

I didn't respond to your original post, but I read all the replies, and frankly, I was really taken aback by how hard-hearted and almost cruel a lot of them were.

I think it's nice that you rethought your original post and qualified it, but really, don't rake yourself over the coals for what you posted.  It was not that bad, at all....but of course that's just my opinion.

The posters here sometimes come across, to me, as very judgmental, and a lot of them put themselves on pedastals in the morals department.  They call you out for being judgmental, but are pretty tough cookies themselves.

Had you been sitting around your kitchen table, with a few friends and made the same comment as you posted here, probably one or two would have said  some of  the things that were posted in reply...and you would have said "oh, you know, you're probably right". It would have been a much more casual and understanding conversation instead of the way it looks when these things are posted in black and white on a message board.

We come here to chat and discuss things with people we think are our "friends", but in reality we often just open ourselves up to harsh criticism over the most innocuous of things.

Don't spend one more minute worrying about what people here think.  You know what's in your heart. 

[suzyQ3]

@LilacTree, I have no idea what occurred, but it is so refreshing to see someone realize that she was on the wrong track and then show appreciation to  those who courteously helped correct her.

[Preds]

@LilacTree  ... you did nothing "wrong".  You expressed your thoughts, as others did. 

You are dealing with a lot, but not the same things.  Every person is allowed their feelings and we tend to forget or not respect that because of what we may be going thru or have been exposed to. 

Throw on your "tuff skin" and carry on girlfriend.  We are here for you and everyone else.

[grandma petes]

I didn’t see your post, but I’m sure we’ve all had a few moments where we spoke and then regretted our words. It is really nice that you came back and apologized. That takes a caring heart and kindness....and it sounds like you have both. Hoping you have a wonderful day LilacTree...😊

[Ms tyrion2]

That is very gracious of you @LilacTree .

Discussing how and why people handle a terminal illness issue can be very difficult.

...but then again, we are terminal from the day we are born, aren't we? 😊

[Sweetbay magnolia]

The way I see it, you were speaking from the heart and conjecturing in a general, yet very personal, sense.

I took no umbrage, and BTW - t's nice to have you back posting.

[IamMrsG]

In contrast to how things turned out, I believe you were owed an apology. 

Don't sweat the small stuff, @LilacTree , or the small people either. 

[SeaMaiden]

@LilacTree   Nothing you said was wrong or a lapse in judgement.  You just said how you felt about the situation. I am sure many people feel just as you stated. It was your viewpoint. I like everyone to have or give a viewpoint  here.