Thank you notes - Page 3

BlueFinch · ‎08-31-2019

Yes, thank you notes may be a thing of the past. That said, there's no excuse good enough for poor manners. Not when we have more means of communication these days, than ever before.

You can bet that these younger folks spend a few hours daily online, but it would be too much of an effort to just text -- thank you? I would settle for that. How easy do we have to make it, to receive some acknowledgement?

Greeting cards of all kinds will lose popularity in the future. Kids are no longer being taught cursive.

It makes me think of many historic beautiful handwritten letters that would touch your soul when reading. The thought, the effort it required to compose such beauty. Now we see typed letters with lots of mistakes. And, this is progress?

Karie2022 · ‎03-26-2010

This has happened to me several times-twice with wedding gifts and once for someones large extravagant 40th birthday party. Incredibly rude as you have no idea if the person received your gift.

Take time every day to enjoy where you are without a need to fix it

Goldengate8361 · ‎01-27-2014

I think it is very rude to not thank someone who gives you a gift. I sincerely think that the whole idea of giving wedding gifts of any type ought to end. A marriage is a personal relationship decision between two people. That's all it is. One should buy your own towels, kitchen appliances, etc. if you can't afford to setup your household with someone, you really should just skip the marriage idea. I don't believe anyone should feel obligated to buy a wedding gift, even if you've been invited and you attend the wedding. A wedding invitation is not a business proposal!

Jrzgirl · ‎01-17-2019

I was taught to write thank you notes when I was a child & I continue to write them. I've taught my daughters to write them, & my daughter taught my only granddaughter to write them.

When my daughter got married, in my husbands speech he said that one of the reasons my wife loves our son-in-law was because he writes thank you notes. The groom's mother cheered!

I have read in etiquetter books that you have one year to send out thank you notes after your wedding. Personally, I think this is way too long, but I've seen it in more than one book.

I was going on vacation with my family & there was a newly married couple on the plane going on their honeymoon. They each had a list of people they were writing thank yous to.

Trailrun23 · ‎05-31-2022

I think a phone call can be even nicer than a note.

I consider not acknowledging a gift in some way to be a lack of being taught good manners by the parents. It reflects on the parents when a graduate or young bride or groom doesn't thank the sender. No excuse for rudeness.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Technically, newlyweds have a year to send out thank you notes. Although most don't take that long. In your case, it's just 3 months. I wouldn't be concerned about not receiving the thank you note until the 6 months mark. At that point, you can assume the couple is rude and ungrateful and didn't send thank you notes. No. Of course thank you notes are not a thing of the past. But ingratitude and tacky behavior is more prevalent than it once was.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@Franell wrote:
I am one of those rude people who doesn't write thank you notes. Every time I get one from someone else I feel guilty. For a big occasion like a wedding I would send them but for your run of the mill birthday or Christmas gift I call or email.

You aren't rude at all. A call or email is perfectly fine.

jackiejenny · ‎10-23-2011

@BlueFinch wrote:
Yes, thank you notes may be a thing of the past. That said, there's no excuse good enough for poor manners. Not when we have more means of communication these days, than ever before.

You can bet that these younger folks spend a few hours daily online, but it would be too much of an effort to just text -- thank you? I would settle for that. How easy do we have to make it, to receive some acknowledgement?

Greeting cards of all kinds will lose popularity in the future. Kids are no longer being taught cursive.

It makes me think of many historic beautiful handwritten letters that would touch your soul when reading. The thought, the effort it required to compose such beauty. Now we see typed letters with lots of mistakes. And, this is progress?

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Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

What is polite and what is acceptable changes with the times. We no longer go to houses and leave a calling card, Christmas cards are not a given, etc.

A formal thank you note is no longer something to fret about. If you don't have a relationship with the giftee or a close family member of that person, or it isn't a business obligation, don't sent a gift.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

I think I gave up when one of my children went to a birthday party for 7 or 8 year olds.

When we left the mom handed out the obligatory "goody bag" (I always thought those were dumb. It got to the point around here that some of the "favors" were nicer than the birthday child's gifts!) and a THANK YOU card already addressed to my child and signed by the birthday child! Inside it said something like, "Thank you for the gift you brought. I really like it." WHAT???? Why waste your time? I guess it was better than nothing.

I WOULD like an acknowledgment of holiday gifts from nephews and their families. They live far from us, I spend more to send the gifts than I do on the gifts themselves, and I never know if they get them and/or like them.