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[evergreen]

I recently attended a baby shower for a grandniece and she said to be sure and put our addresses on a sheet of paper so she could send out "thank you" notes. She also added that she hadn't sent out thank you notes for her wedding because she didn't have addresses.. It's amazing to me that they can find my address for invitations but not for thank you notes. One of her friends suggested that she just say thanks on Facebook. I guess I don't understand this kind of thinking.

[Mom2Dogs]

Dh and I sent a nice gift of money to a bride last year...check was cashed, never got a thank you...I don't get it...they send the invite and you know darn well they know they will receive a gift, the least they could do is say thank you.

[hckynut]

Join the world of "text/facebook and all the other social media". Many I believe were not taught what used to be common sense when receiving a gift or card or whatever. In my young days it was "face to face", thank you. Later to become "phone call" thank you. Later to become "e-mail" thank you. Since I don't do any social media or text?

Will be honest my day of sending cards or anything other than for someone that is close to me has died and I know their family well. With them I do not expect any response from them since they have many more important and sad emotional things on their minds.

[lulu2]

On 5/26/2014 evergreen said:

I recently attended a baby shower for a grandniece and she said to be sure and put our addresses on a sheet of paper so she could send out "thank you" notes. She also added that she hadn't sent out thank you notes for her wedding because she didn't have addresses.. It's amazing to me that they can find my address for invitations but not for thank you notes. One of her friends suggested that she just say thanks on Facebook. I guess I don't understand this kind of thinking.

I've been to showers where the guests addressed the envelopes......and a few times, we never received the thank you note that went with the envelope.

I've been to a shower where we signed a list, gave our email address and what gift we gave.

[RetRN]

Lately, I'm more surprised if I do get a thank you note than if I don't. Times sure have changed.

[azterry!]

The complaint of not receiving a thank you note isn't a problem limited to today. I remember reading Dear Abby columns complaining about the very same thing when I was a kid.

[SugarNSpice]

It starts with the parents teaching them to send Thank you notes and Thank you cards. It should start at a young age.

My business partners who have children have them send Thank you notes and/or cards all the time. We did the same, my mom and aunt did the same and so on.

[madzonie]

I have decided to not send cash gifts (or any gifts) to the grandkids of an old friend. Because I have no grandkids of my own, I thought I'd like to play "granny" to my friend's. I have never received a thank you note - not from the kids as they got older, nor from their parents. I would always have to contact them to even be sure they received my gifts. I decided i've had enough.

[MurphiesLaw]

On 5/26/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:

On 5/26/2014 evergreen said:

She also added that she hadn't sent out thank you notes for her wedding because she didn't have addresses.. It's amazing to me that they can find my address for invitations but not for thank you notes.

I would have nicely told her, in front of everyone, to get the addresses from the person/people who had sent out the invitations. Or asked her how she got the addresses to send out the invitations to the wedding.

I think it's laziness that she doesn't find out certain addresses on her own. I'd ask friends/relatives or check online. If necessary, I'd call that person the next day to ask for their address.

I totally agree.

[missy1]

People lack manners today. They can be on FB all day, but can't handwrite a few lines in a thank you card. I think the etiquette of getting a wedding thank you card for a year is rediculous. They might be divorced in a year!