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[monicakm]

My mother died in March. I was so incredibly relieved that she left this world and was free of the hideous disease that consumed her, dementia. I know she is in heaven so there isn't anything to be sad for. My grief for myself was put on hold. Seems as though I am ready to grieve for myself now, to deal with not having a mother. Not having her unconditional love and support. The list is endless. She was my best friend and biggest supporter. I miss her so much.  

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[JYWilliams]

I am sorry for the lose of your mother from such a horrible disease. Do what you have to do to take care of yourself. I'm wishing you all the best. See you when you come back ..

[catter70]

Never sure I ever got to mourn either of my parents death. After my dad died, there was my mom that my sister and I had to care for, then when she died, there was taking care of her estate matters. Never a good time to let loose. Anyhow, take your time that you need and we'll be here waiting for you when you get back. You'll be missed.

[hkrgrl]

so sorry for the loss of your mom.

i understand that feeling of being relieved for your mom, but missing her every singel day.  i went through that 10 years ago.  and i miss her every day!  but i also feel blessed that i had that wonderful relationship with her, when so many do not, that i do miss her every day.  hope that makes sense.

i did nothing for over a month after my mom passed, so take all the time you need. 

mental health is health. 

take good care of yourself.

[vermint]

@monicakm I understand what you mean about taking time to grieve. My mom died three days after DH broke his back in a tree-cutting accident. He was still in the hospital and we weren't yet sure that he would walk again (he did, thankfully). He had to be my priority, but I was so torn between wanting to be with him, and wanting to be with my Dad & 2 brothers. Somehow, with the help of family/friends, I was able to do both. That whole time is still kind of a blur in my memory.

It was several months before I really started missing my mom, so I empathize with you. Take all the time you need, we'll be waiting when you return with your fun posts!

[Dusty1]

@monicakm It is a brutal disease & I was so relieved when my Mom was released, too.

But it was still my Mom & I miss her.

I still have dreams with her in them all of the time. I still cry when I stop & think about it all.

Life goes on.

[Sooner]

@monicakm  Take the time for yourself you need.  I am sorry for your loss.

After dealing with health and mental issues for 12 years for mom, and losing dad and uncle and aunt along the way, it's been almost 30 long years of grief and nursing homes.  

Mom passed in a gentle way that was such a blessing from God,  and to be honest, I have grieved for all of them for so long, I think I am beyond grief at this stage.  

Blessings to all of you facing loss and hardship with elderly ones.

[goldensrbest]

Not sure what taking a mental health break means,  all the thoughts we have and feelings,can not  be easy to deal with but in the end we have to .

[Sooner]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

Not sure what taking a mental health break means,  all the thoughts we have and feelings,can not  be easy to deal with but in the end we have to .

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@goldensrbest I am not disagreeing with you, but maybe adding some perspective on long term issues:  Sometimes when you have dealt with things for so long you get numb to them.  In my case, I had to for my survival.  Sometimes you just have to make the choice to let go of something that you don't control or have answers for, or let it ruin you. 

[We rescue cats]

Bless your healing heart @monicakm. I am so sorry for your loss of your mom, that is one that is tough to adjust to. I'll be holding you close in prayer and looking forward to your return. Take good care, my friend.