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[Tinkrbl44]

Invisible? .... I find it to be a great relief when the salespeople leave me alone. If I want their attention or help, I have no problem asking for it.

[brewhaha]

Sometimes I wish I was invisible when I look in a mirror.

[sylviahomeatlast]

yes---and I wrote a poem about that around 9 years ago ----titled--""The Women in Boxes""

[sylviahomeatlast]

I'm mostly invisible here---but I don't care--I have lots of friends in RL---not mean ones or rude and overly needy

[gazelle77]

I prefer and try to be invisible... who wants to be visible?? Why is it important? I find people always come up to ME and talk... when I would much rather just be left alone.

[Catitude]

No but it helps to be put together, well dressed and have an air of confidence when shopping.

[Marienkaefer2]

On 4/30/2014 NoelSeven said:

I don't think I'm vintage yet, LOL, but tell me what you mean by invisible, please.

I'm thinking of my mother and she wasn't invisible, for sure. People always loved being around my mother.

Yes, my grandmother was like that. She was 92 and still.commanding attention.

It was always like this. I.remember walking into the grocery store with her...She was in her fifties then...and she knew the name of every employee and they knew her..."Hi Angie!"...You could hear this all.over the store.

Even when we went.to bigger dept stores...She always knew the salesperson well by the time we left! Haha!

I think it's personality. I've always been a "wallflower" from.the time I was born. Lol

[NoelSeven]

On 4/30/2014 azterry! said:

No, not really.

I see nothing unladylike about stepping up to a counter, smiling broadly and saying good morning to the sales associate. You will get service and likely it will be good service. That's what men do and there is nothing aggressive about it.

I'm with you, terry. There are two ways to get the kind of attention we're speaking of. One is to be aggressive, the other is to be assertive. It's not about being lady-like if that means not standing up for yourself.

Heck, they even have classes in being assertive, which is to politely but assuredly protect your rights.

[JustJules]

I've been feeling pretty invisible lately since my dad died a couple weeks ago, and I'm not even in my vintage years yet....although the stress has made me feel about 100. People with hospice that supposedly cared or should have provided support, then didn't follow through. It makes the whole process so much worse. I guess I have learned that I can truly only rely on myself, and lately I'm not so sure I can even rely on me.

[NoelSeven]

On 5/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said:

On 4/30/2014 NoelSeven said:

I don't think I'm vintage yet, LOL, but tell me what you mean by invisible, please.

I'm thinking of my mother and she wasn't invisible, for sure. People always loved being around my mother.

Yes, my grandmother was like that. She was 92 and still.commanding attention.

It was always like this. I.remember walking into the grocery store with her...She was in her fifties then...and she knew the name of every employee and they knew her..."Hi Angie!"...You could hear this all.over the store.

Even when we went.to bigger dept stores...She always knew the salesperson well by the time we left! Haha!

I think it's personality. I've always been a "wallflower" from.the time I was born. Lol

That's a nice story, MK! Yes, that's what my mother was like, including with sales people.