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[Love my grandkids]

@cookinfreak I had to laugh. If you had stated in your original post that the visitation is in YOUR HOME TOWN I think a lot of responses may have been different.

It's important to include ALL details in a post like yours, just for the future.

And after so many years, I personally would have no interest in going but you do what you think best.

[aroc3435]

@cookinfreak   Thank you so much for circling back to let us know what your decision was.

It is considerate of you to do that.

Best,

aroc3435

Washington, DC

[lgfan]

It obvious that you don't want to go otherwise you would not be asking people for their opinions you would just go. I personally would not go. You were not married to the guy nor did you have children with him. I would tell the daughter that you are sorry but you are unable to go.

[depglass]

GO.   I would feel honored I was remembered at this painful time in their lives.

[Growing]

I encourage you to go, for yourself and for the family. I was married for a long time to a guy who told his family to stop speaking to me once we divorced. This was people I have photos of going back 30 years and had friendships with. So during covid, an elder died in my city, and my adult child asked would I go with them because we were the only ones who could attend. I almost told my adult child no but I thought this is the time I do something nice for that family and not let it be weird although I was nervous and it felt weird. The friendly ones appreciated that we came. Some refused eye contact and seemed nervous I was there (that is on them). I am glad I went and the elder's wife was very grateful I came to give condolences. That is all that matters.