Stumped! What Would You Do...Wedding? - Page 10

mima · ‎03-14-2010

I like the re-gifted idea also or else nothing.

My best friend from HS got married right after she got out of school. They were only married about a year and got divorced. I don't remember how long they were divorced, but probably a couple years and they got remarried. They had a couple of kids and they have been happily married since. They are now ages 60 and 61. They went to the courthouse and got married the 2nd time. They did not have a wedding or reception as it should be!

My own grandparents were married twice. They were divorced when my mom was a teen. My mom got married later on and moved out of state because my dad was in the military. Then they had me. When I was born my grandma and grandpa wanted to come see me (both out of state). Mom was so upset because they were going to be there visiting at the same time and she figured it would be very uncomfortable. While they were there visiting and to see me my grandpa asked my grandma out on a date. Next thing mom knew, they were getting remarried! They stayed married until first my grandpa died and many years later my grandma died. I love that story because I actually brought them back together!!!

Edited to clarify the timeline.

terriebear · ‎09-26-2010

Agree with your husband. This gal's parents have set the presidence of not paying for the reception. If the couple can pay for a big reception, they don't need gifts the second time around. This is tacky from all sides.

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

Years ago a family member sent me an invite to their wedding, we were not on speaking terms....I send a lovely card no gift.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@Bonanzajellybean wrote:
Are the parents paying for this big reception? Does hallmark have a card for this specific occasion? Lol.

@GenXmuse I just bet that they do. LOL

I haven't read again since I posted earlier on this thread -but what happened to the gifts/money from the first wedding?

And - just to stir the pot - did thank you cards go out for that first wedding?????

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Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@mima wrote:
I like the re-gifted idea also or else nothing.

My best friend from HS got married right after she got out of school. They were only married about a year and got divorced. I don't remember how long they were divorced, but probably a couple years and they got remarried. They had a couple of kids and they have been happily married since. They are now ages 60 and 61. They went to the courthouse and got married. They did not have a wedding or reception as it should be!

My own grandparents were married twice. They were divorced when my mom was a teen. My mom got married later on and had me and moved out of state since my dad was military. After I was born my grandma and grandpa wanted to come see me. Mom was so upset because they were going to be there visiting at the same time and she figured it would be very uncomfortable. While they were there visiting to see me my grandpa asked my grandma out on a date. Next thing mom knew, they were getting remarried! They stayed married until first my grandpa died and many years later my grandma died. I love that story because I actually brought them back together!!!

What a sweet and amazing story!

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

Maybe we need a whole new subforum for wedding questions -- lol.

Out of respect for your daughter's feelings about her friend, I would probably pick out a small item on the gift registry.

Did you receive your original present back or what?

Yardlie · ‎03-10-2010

@KathyPet wrote:
If they are getting married in a private ceremony by a JOP why are they having "attendants" at all? The ceremonies of this type that I am familiar with consist of two witnesses and the B&G . Please don't tell me she is having bridesmaids and your daughter has to buy another dress for this fiasco.

Yes, they are having two attendants each. The attendants (bridesmaids) are allowed to wear whatever dress they choose though, as the only people who will be there are the mothers, fathers, siblings, and grandparents.

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willdob3 · ‎11-01-2010

No gift. If you go, a card would be appropriate. But, if you feel she is making the same mistake over again, I would not go and I would not send a card.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@Allegheny wrote:
OK, I am trying to look at this situation with a "kinder" outlook then what precipated my previous comment.

I truely hope the reason the couple is reuniting is because of love and commitment which they realized they weren't ready for their first go around.

I chose to ignore the biological clock issue. Hopefully that is just off the cuff chatting between two girlfriends and not meant to be serious.

The post marriage celebration. Ok, I give in on this also. They want to celebrate their reuniting with friends and family. But definitely the couple should not set up registries and should even state "no gifts" on the invites. Attendees do what they want regardless. If people decide to give a gift of money, that would then be the decision of the attendee, not the couple.

You are 100% right, that is the way it should be. Probably the way it would be in this unusual circumstance. But it is not the way it is. This bride is registered and did not say "your presence is the only gift we need". People do not always do things the way we think they should do them.

jaxs mom · ‎04-18-2012

@mima wrote:
I like the re-gifted idea also or else nothing.

My best friend from HS got married right after she got out of school. They were only married about a year and got divorced. I don't remember how long they were divorced, but probably a couple years and they got remarried. They had a couple of kids and they have been happily married since. They are now ages 60 and 61. They went to the courthouse and got married the 2nd time. They did not have a wedding or reception as it should be!

My own grandparents were married twice. They were divorced when my mom was a teen. My mom got married later on and moved out of state because my dad was in the military. Then they had me. When I was born my grandma and grandpa wanted to come see me (both out of state). Mom was so upset because they were going to be there visiting at the same time and she figured it would be very uncomfortable. While they were there visiting and to see me my grandpa asked my grandma out on a date. Next thing mom knew, they were getting remarried! They stayed married until first my grandpa died and many years later my grandma died. I love that story because I actually brought them back together!!!

Edited to clarify the timeline.

Thats a great story. Thanks for sharing it.

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