Stepmother: hurtful - Page 6

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@Q4u wrote:
I have had the doctor tell me it doesn't and shouldn't be removed unless I want a scare.

I have had numerous "barnicles" removed from my face and I've never had my doctor tell me not to unless I wanted a scare.... so I'm a bit baffled by that remark. My doctor tells me that she'll "watch" something but I've had pre-cancerous items taken off at least once a year and have to go again.... and my doctor will remove something benign while it's still small enough to not be big deal removing it.

Anyway, as far as your Step Mother is concerned, she doesn't seem to know when to stop..... ignore her and follow your doctor's advice.

@Q4u

I had to laugh at "barnicles", our Derm calls them 'carbunkles', LOL!

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

qbetzforreal · ‎08-28-2010

Some seniors lose the filter as they get older and feel they can say what ever they want and they repeat it over and over. I would tell her politely but with all seriousness not to bring up the mole.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@susan kay wrote:
Some people are sooo tacky!!!! I"m guessing from what you've said that she will keep bringing this subject up. You might want to just say something casually to her..."I'm fine with the mole on my face, and besides the doctor also thinks that I should leave it alone"....to keep her quiet. Doesn't need to be argumentative, just a simple comment. If she brings it up again, just ignore her and act as if she has said nothing. No other response would be needed.

Not sure what the doctor meant by "a scare", but that's kind of beside the point.

@susan kay

Good answer! Maybe the Dr.'s opinion might shut her up.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

ugh she sounds like a real pill. op , here's a thought. some time, when she is snarking at you, casually take your middle finger and sort of lightly scrape the corner of your mouth like there is something there (like chocolate ice cream residue got stuck there) . she will get a bit anxious and go check the mirror. repeat as necessary

Suziepeach · ‎03-10-2010

@ashleigh dupray wrote:
ugh she sounds like a real pill. op , here's a thought. some time, when she is snarking at you, casually take your middle finger and sort of lightly scrape the corner of your mouth like there is something there (like chocolate ice cream residue got stuck there) . she will get a bit anxious and go check the mirror. repeat as necessary

LOL @CatsyCline or ever so gently touch her forehead... and then hmmmm softly. She questions or touches that area just say, "Oh I thought I saw something protruding ( and to yourself, like a horn, LOL devilishly laughing.)

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Zhills · ‎11-15-2011

@KingstonsMom wrote:
@susan kay wrote:
Some people are sooo tacky!!!! I"m guessing from what you've said that she will keep bringing this subject up. You might want to just say something casually to her..."I'm fine with the mole on my face, and besides the doctor also thinks that I should leave it alone"....to keep her quiet. Doesn't need to be argumentative, just a simple comment. If she brings it up again, just ignore her and act as if she has said nothing. No other response would be needed.

Not sure what the doctor meant by "a scare", but that's kind of beside the point.
@susan kay

Good answer! Maybe the Dr.'s opinion might shut her up.

I had a basal cell removed by MOHS this past Summer and it was adjoinning one of those light colored moles. I asked the Doctor about removing it when he removed the cancer and he said, "It is all healthy tissue there is no reason to remove it." Nuff said!

Since it had always been there, leaving it there makes the MOHS scar less noticeable.

Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I know how you feel since I've been in your shoes. All of us kids never said anything for our dad's sake. It was hard to be around her & not say something. His wife is gone now & we can enjoy our dad when we can visit.

I would say since your dad is ill I would drop it to keep the peace. There will come a time & place when you can speak up if you still feel the need.

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

@Suziepeach

1jenniferjuniper · ‎03-09-2010

@chrystaltree wrote:
I'm assuming you aren't 12 years old but you certainly are acting like it. She won't stop because you have done or said anything to make her stop. Wait until she says something when there are other people around. Then act like an adult and in a firm...loud voice; say STOP IT NOW! This is my face and what is on it is none of your business. I don't need your advice and sick of your rudeness. Do not ever mention this to me again. She'll be mortified and the other people in the room will respect you. If you can't do that. just make peace with her comments. Accept that she is a bully and you are willing victim.

Seriously? You are acting like a 12 year old! Her dad is very ill and doesn't need more stress.